Major house rule broken

Q: What is the appropriate way to handle when a major house rule is broken? My 12 year old daughter allowed a friend to come over when we were not home even though we had clearly pre-taught the reasons why we made that a rule. I caught it happening on our ring cameras. I came home and calmly described to her what she had done, the reasons why we won't allow it, but I didn't feel like a standard "earn a chore" was an equivalent cause and effect. Would you give a major maintenance in this situation to help her learn why this very important rule is not to be broken? She apologized and said she won't do it again and I only had her wipe down the counters. But it left me feeling like it wasn't enough. Would your answer change if she broke the rule again? We are pretty new to TSG but we have started to implement many of your skills. Thanks for sharing what you do!

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