Little “foxes”

Oh dear! My 5 & 8 year old persist at breaking into my 13 year olds room and taking and damaging her makeup.

The 2 little ones also don’t obey, don’t do their extra chores and they hurt and hit each other & attack miss 13 when they get angry!

I have resorted to intentional spanking them to simply demonstrate the boundary because they refuse to listen and at best spend all their time disagreeing “appropriately “ but ongoing with cyclic reasoning.

They are in a habit of making dirty looks at each other and Us as parenting and I just feel I cannot get to their hearts. They are closed off to me and any correction. I literally can’t “make them” accept their consequences & they don’t sit in the calm down spot and treat me like I am annoying them and I am the stupid one for correcting them!

They speak badly and even use curse words they constantly sneak off with devices & watch tv when not allowed.

I have a vision for the family and a summary of standards, but I haven't had much success having heart to heart chats and feel like their fear blocks out any conversation and they are ruling over me.

When I try to be with Miss 5 she’s only wanting to tell me stupid things that dont make sense like “ okay mum, let’s make a deal – I will give you 5c and you give me $50 and I will go and buy some makeup…” and when I say that doesn’t work she rolls here eyes like I am dumb and mean…

If I can summarise it – I feel like they don’t trust me, that they block hearing anything I say and just wait for moments when my back is turned to intentionally do the things they know I don’t approve of!! It’s like I have 2 little criminals in my family 😩