It’s not my role but I want to help.

I've seen positive changes in my children using the TSG program over three months, making me calmer and more hopeful. I aim to influence my original family positively, while understanding it's not entirely my role.

My family has a history of aggressive communication, including shouting and physical altercations.

My mother, who worked at Panda Express, is not wealthy and very frugal. She has bipolar disorder, leading to swings between generosity and feeling exploited. In depressive states, she obsesses over trivialities and often withdraws financial gifts, damaging relationships.

My brother, who faced military abuse and attempted suicide 15 years ago, was given $170,000 by our mother, who now views it variably as a loan, gift, or theft.

Living in Thailand, my brother battles mental health issues, leading to homelessness and institutionalization. Recently, he returned home during a mental health crisis.

Initially, my mother was supportive, assisting him in getting military disability benefits. Yet, in her depressive cycle when she demanded repayment using his benefits, he reacted violently, cut ties, and left the country. He is now purposely sabotaging the VA benefits as he sees it all as a manipulation. I want to help him keep these benefits, as I worry about him.

She overheard me talking to him while he was self-harming. I might have unintentionally criticized her in the conversation, which I don't fully recall. Now, she alternates between yelling at me and ignoring me. I believe explaining calmly could resolve this, but partial eavesdropping complicates things.

The situation is critical, as my children observe how I handle conflict. I've taught them to emulate our interactions and treatment of others. My goal is to manage this situation effectively. How can I do this? My mom is at her depressive cycle currently.