Humor, jokes, teasing

Hi Nicholeen, thank you in advance for your help, I pray for you daily and I hope you're doing well. I'm concerned the way my husband is being an example for our children when it comes to the subject of humor. First of all I don't think he or I were raised well. His dad's humor was crude and frightening him made his father laugh and lying about things too. Making fun of things and observing stranger's differences in a rude way was also supposed to be funny. My husband isn't on the same level as his dad was but it does seep out some. I noticed the way my husband interacts with his friends in a very immature way, like way too competitive and putting each other down brings a lot of laughs. His coworkers and him have texted pictures to each other after going number 2 and putting their parts on each other unexpectedly at work is supposedly so gross its funny based on stories he tells me after he gets home from work sometimes. Those stories to my knowledge have never made it to the ears of my children. My husband is a laborer and has always worked in this environment and it seems like all the men that do hard labor with him are very gross. I don't understand it and it's confusing. I never liked but tolerated this behavior from him for a long time but now I do not want my boys following down this path and I'm angry. Too much of the time I hate being married to someone like this. I want to be married to a gentleman. But I don't have the right humor path to follow based on my upbringing either, as I can't even pinpoint what made my parents laugh anymore. If I remember correctly my dad had a dry sense of humor, I do remember them laughing frequently but about what I don't remember. We were quite a dysfunctional family. After praying and asking God to show me good and bad humor I have seen myself lightly teasing my children and I don't think that's right. I told my children we're not going to tease each other any more and no more pranks as my 12 year old loves those, because lying is involved in his pranks. I let them know I was going to find out what is good humor and what is bad and hurtful so we can have fun and laugh in the right way.