Define “Out of Instructional Control”

I have a question about 24 loss of privilege and being out of instructional control. I understand the idea that if the child is talking back, yelling, not accepting consequences, attitude problem etc. you do the Rule of 3 which leads to loss of privilege if they get that far. But I know you've said somewhere that if the child runs away, or walks away during a correction, they are essentially choosing to be out of instructional control and they automatically earn all of the Rule of 3 consequences. So my question is what are the more subtle "out of instructional control" behaviors? My 14-year-old has been making a sack lunch, but buys a school lunch anyway (going into debt with the school because she's gone beyond our budget) and then lying about it. She also takes other people's electronics (mine, Grandma's, her sister's) into bed at night, sometimes breaking it, and lies about that. Are these out of instructional control behaviors that automatically earn 24 hours of no privilege, like walking away, or just extra chore or major maintenance? We've already done loss of privilege for 24 hours once when I discovered the school lunch thing, but she did it again the very next week. Thank you.