Consequences

Hi, good morning
I’m having a few struggles when it comes to consequences
1. I’m having a hard time figuring out a consequence that fits action
2. Following through with it. When my kids act up I usually say “you will have an extra chore”or “you be grounded/ not allowed to do something” but I never really know what it is they will be grounded from or what the extra chore is. And I never follow through.
3. On the rare items that I do follow through and assign the extra chore; my daughter will cry and refuse to do it ( she’s 13)
It usually ends up being something I know she dislikes to do like washing some pots or something that is usually my chore.
Thank you so much!