Celebrations

I wanted to thank you and let you know that things are going really well! There are still some days where I feel exhausted, and it’s not like all our behavior problems went away magically and we are still constantly pre teaching and doing corrections, but there has been drastic progress and the spirit of our family has been uplifted. Since hearing about your program 3 months ago I’ve only yelled 3 times. For me, this is a win, because it always felt like I would calmly talk and be trampled over, until I lost it, and as a last resort my kids would listen. Now my kids just listen. I did yell a couple weeks ago, and my son who may be on the spectrum was able to disagree appropriately and stay in control of his emotions and calmly explain his perspective without earning the big 3. I was impressed, and excited by this progress.

My son has made big leaps in reading facial cues, and although he is still prideful, has been keeping to his role and not correcting as much. He can even spot it now when he is outside his role.

One thing we implemented was the vision which has made all the difference. My kids are now disagreeing appropriately to sacrifice for each other. We have our weekly goal setting with each child that has made big differences in their behavior especially my son who is very goal oriented. We took each of our kids out on dates and told them about our “ happiness plan” and our vision and the entire family has been excited about it. We also talked about how we love them and give them corrections out of love and that they should feel closer to us after a correction, and practiced a few times, which has made my kids more receptive of corrections.

We have created songs for our family motto. We have implemented a daily Bible study, and spend time each meal with fellowship and worship in mind. We cook and clean up together. Since we implemented this program, my 6 and 8 year old have learned how to do laundry, clean toilets, cook meals, clean cars, clean tables, vacuum, sweep, mop, and pick up after themselves. The house is much cleaner and the stress of maintaining it has been taken off of my shoulders. My kids are attempting to be as helpful as they can. They even take care of their little brother and will empty his potty when needed.

My 8 month old has learned how to take deep breaths. He now uses deep breaths to communicate that he has to use the restroom because he only use to cry for those reasons, and we would have him take deep breaths.