Appositional defiance

Good morning, I'm just clarifying. Would this be considering Oppositional defiance. This morning my daughter was fine all morning until she had to circle a form of what she wanted to do after school. For a program she goes to. She chose not to circle. She wanted to put an x by because it would run into the Other choices. She got very angry with me when I said she needed to circle it. I explained if she was in school doing stuff and she didn't follow the instructions. She could get a 0 or F on the paper because she didn't follow instructions. Then I continued in the car to tell her that. As an adult, we have to make choices when our boss says or we could lose our jobs. We didn't always like it, but we have to do it because there's always another person that could take our job.. How should I handle it? It's much easier looking on the outside than being in the inside and figuring it out.