About - Teaching Self-Government

TSG Vision

Teaching Self-Government frees families from emotional bondage by inspiring parents to create family environments centered around calm, self-governed and unified relationships; thereby empowering these families to be a great impact for good in the world.

TSG Mission

Through courses, trainings, mentoring, workshops and materials, Teaching Self-Government mentors help parents analyze family relationships and problem solve difficult situations by teaching principles of self-government, the structure of a unified family atmosphere, and the tools and skills needed for self-mastery,personal freedom, and family unity.

About Nicholeen

Nicholeen Peck is a wife, mother of four, and grandmother who has spent decades helping families around the world find more peace at home and learning self-mastery. She is the founder of Teaching Self-Government and a global advocate for strong families, known for her calm, principle-based approach to parenting and communication.

Her journey began in her own living room, first as a mother and then as a foster parent to troubled teens, where she developed a system based on self-government, calmness, and honest, respectful communication. In 2009, her approach gained international attention when the BBC featured her family in a documentary called The Worlds Strictest Parents, where two rebellious British teens transformed in just eight days under her care. Since then, Nicholeen has shared her message on TV and radio, through books and articles, and in person with audiences across six continents.

Nicholeen is also a YouTuber and podcaster, sharing real-life parenting tips and heartfelt encouragement with families each week. She is the author of several books including Parenting a House United, Roles, the 4 Basic Skills Children’s Books, The Power of Calm, The Calm Crew children’s book set, Popular Parenting Methods, and more. Her work has been translated into Spanish, Chinese, and Japanese.

In addition to mentoring thousands of families, Nicholeen serves as President of the Worldwide Organization for Women, is an approved United Nations consultant on family issues and is a member of the House of Representatives. But no matter how far her message travels, she says her most important work is still at home, building strong relationships with her own children and grandchildren.

What People are Saying about Teaching Self-Government

The biggest thing I came away with at the Couples Retreat (now Parenting Mastery Retreat) that I attended was not only that the principles and skills I was learning could help change my family, but that I could change myself. That I could change my heart and truly become self-governed.

- Monica Isaacson

Having implemented these Self Government Skills has given us our daughter back. She is a 16 yr old who has been, very difficult to deal with. We still struggle with her, but are beginning to see some progress, and are starting to be able to communicate with her, thanks to these new skills! She actually approached me calmly tonight, and asked if she could disagree appropriately about a chore she had been given. It was amazing to have a conversation with her that didn’t start and end with her being disrespectful, yelling, or having a tantrum. We were able to come to an agreement very quickly, and she kept eye contact, and was calm the whole time. I felt reconnected to my daughter!

- Becky Doughty

We’ve read your book, and listened to a talk! My husband and I have started implementing some of your techniques, and our house has been so different! …my oldest son told me yesterday that he wishes I would stop listening to THAT lady, because he’s sick of being calm! I asked him if he would rather have yelling in the house, and he agreed that this was much better! We (myself and my 6 children!) actually made cookies yesterday, and for once it was a GOOD experience!! 🙂 So thank you! We’re still learning… 🙂

- Julianne

My 4 year old loves your first two books, can't wait for the next one! He makes me read them to him all the time.

- Molly Christensen

We sure appreiciate all you do to bless all of God’s children. You are an answer to so many of our prayers as I’m sure you are to others as well.

- Michelle C.

Nicholeen is so inspiring. I love all of her products and recommend them frequently to my friends. What she teaches every family should know. Changing a child’s heart is not an easy process, but as we step up our family government and really start to understand what self-government is, and how to change ourselves – miracles happen. It truly is a life-long journey.

Nicholeen sure has a knack for articulating what you just can put your finger on. She teaches you to see what you are missing. It is so amazing how most all behaviors fit under the 4 Basic Skills. I will be forever grateful for the Power of Calm, and the Rule of Three. Thank you for your time and dedication to your life’s mission.

- Natalie Fluckiger