Using guilt to discipline/control children

Hello. Nicholeen,
My spouse frequently using guilt to discipline/control our 12 yr old child. For example, if the child does something wrong (especially something on the serious side), he will get upset and go on and on about how much it upset and stressed him out. He will say things like “I just need to rest and recover. I am so stressed. You just worry me to death.” The problem is that this tactic seems to initially work. Our kiddo usually apologizes and feels bad, so my spouse thinks it is effective. Can you please speak on long term problems that this disciplining model can cause. Also, I have noticed that everyone has to frequently walk on egg shells while my spouse recovers from these events, and it seems like the whole thing becomes about him and getting him comfortable and calmed down.