Connection and correction

Hi thank you for all you do to support struggling parents. I know you talk about how we should be closer after a correction than before because of the praise. It sounds good in theory but I am struggling with how to put it into practice. My kids hate to be corrected and given consequences and I try to put it in a positive light but I feel like when I give instructions and especially consequences, they are angry with me for interrupting their play. My six year old will not stay in a calm down spot unless I hold him there. He runs away and goes to play. Same with trying the rule of 3. He won’t stay for it unless I hold him or take him to a room where he can’t go anywhere and then he tantrums and I feel like it’s just a negative cycle. They are really struggling with accepting consequences. How can I make it more positive?