Accepting consequences and following instructions for our basic routine

Hi! So we are struggling with getting on a good routine/schedule. If I don’t start with the lines, “I’m giving you an instruction” then I generally get ignored. If I do say, “I’m giving you an instruction, you can say ok or disagree appropriately. It’s time for breakfast, or to help clean up breakfast, or to read scriptures, or go outside, or bedtime routine,” whatever it is, it’s like a cue to fight back against said routine and then fight against the earned chores up until they have lost all privileges. and then it doesn’t really matter to them because they are already out of instructional control from the last time I said to do something and they are just used to not having treats and outings and toys. They find a way to entertain themselves by making mischief and staying out of instructional control. how can I help them care about their biggest consequence if they never do the chores to get out, so they are always out of instructional control?
My boys are 6 and 7.