Calm down spot

Hello Nicholeen! My question is about my five-year-old, and when we put him in a come down spot until he’s ready to take instructions, he often will sit there perfectly calm and say that he is still not calm enough to receive an instruction but is perfectly content to sit there for hours if I allowed it (to avoid having to follow an instruction). Would I then begin a modified rule of 3? Also what is the difference between a mentor meeting and the other kind you do after a correction- and is that for older children only?
We’re so thankful for you!!

Abby Garrison