Correcting

I'm so confused on how to handle my kids. I spent a couple weeks teaching them the basic skills, practicing, roll playing, using the verbiage during the day. I wish I could afford the course, but we've spent so much money on other courses, I just can't afford it right now. I've read the book, and watched the Aponte family tutorial, I was really hoping to see kids out of control so I could get a better understanding on what to do. Those kids look like angels compared to mine.

I don't know how to start implementing TSG. This morning 2 of my boys found a glass bottle outside and one of them broke it and one cut his hand. Both blamed each other for breaking it. I told them what they should have done was pick up the bottle and throw it away or just leave it and since they choose to break it and make a mess they each earned an extra chore. My older boy, 10, called me a stupid b*****and iasked him if he remember the steps to accepting a consequence he said "what are you dumb?" rolled his eyes and walked away. I told him he automatically earned loss of privileges.i told him his 24 hours would start when he accepts his consequences. He responded with I don't care, I'm not doing it and more cussing. And he went about his day like nothing happened continuing to misbehave. Do I keep reminding him to do his chores? When he earns a loss of privileges, is it all of them, like no electronics, friends and snacks, or do I pick one?
And when I'm doing a correction for a behavior and they aren't accepting their consequence by talking back or plugging their ears or giving me the middle finger or whatever, do I stop my 1st correction and start a new one for the misbehavior? I feel like I'm getting lost in all these corrections i don't even know what I'm correcting by the end of it.

Can you steer me in the right direction? Thank you.

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