Professional Counseling

My spouse & I are at odds w/how to get our little kids to behave. It’s the #1 problem in our marriage & relationship w/our teenager. We’re still in the beginning of TSG. I’m constantly reminded he is more invested in the program because he’s listened to more podcasts & studied more. I admit that I haven’t listened to as many podcasts, ect. as I am busy at home with kids. I don’t believe that this means that I’m not as invested as I’m trying to teach good behavior and to stop bad behavior, especially for the 3-year-old. While doing this program, I’m exhausted/emotionally drained at being manipulated during TSG by my husband as he claims I’m the problem. He pushes me until I get upset; we can hardly talk about parenting or TSG where I am not being shredded as a parent, especially when I try to stop the 3-year-old from acting like a tyrant such as treating me terribly, especially, when her dad is home! Her behavior turns horrid to the point when my husband comes home, she says things like I don’t want you, leave me alone, get your hands off of me! She wants her dad; he gives her near whatever she wants especially w/bad behavior. It’s so bad that sometimes I have to remove myself from being together around them. While doing TSG with my husband, I can’t stand hearing things like, the girls don’t want to be around you because you are a bully, rather than realizing that they want to be around him because he gives them what they want whereas I am trying to teach them (or help them to behave) when they are horribly out of control! When the 3-year-old demands things &/or whines non-stop, he says she must have learned it from me, rather than she is doing it to try to get what she wants because he gives her what she wants. When she bit her 2-year old sister & tried to choke her, he said that she is doing it because she must have learned it from being around me & to get attention. I know it was for attention, but I don’t give into her behaving badly. I told my spouse I know that we NEED counseling as we do the TSG program as this isn’t a healthy environment. He says that he doesn’t have a problem. I told him that I’d ask for your opinion about counseling since I feel it is needed as we go through this program. He told me not to ask you about counseling because he said Satan wants us to get distracted with a counselor & get off course. I told him it’s important to me to have a counselor as a mediator & to keep it healthy. He doesn’t want to. What are your thoughts?