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Using TSG Skills

Referee blowing whistle

Should They Fight it Out?

There are sometimes when an argument is a natural consequence of a bad behavior. Do I stand back and let them or continue to be a referee between them?... more
Broom, dustpan, and child's feet

Why Not?

I instructed my daughter to sweep the floor.  She said, “OK Mom, but I don’t know how.”    This surprised me.  She had seen me sweep the floor so many times, that I forgot she might not even know ho... more
Little boy writing

About S.O.D.A.S.

Recently, I have had a number of emails asking questions about how to use SODAS.  If you aren't aware, SODAS are a problem solving exercise that I learned how to use while working for the Utah Youth Village. ... more
Child pouting

Helping Young Children Accept "No" Answers

"Nicholeen, I was wondering how you teach these principles to the younger children.  My children are (almost) 8, (almost) 6, 3.5, 20 months, and a 2 week old.  (not that I expect to be doing this with the new... more
Girl stealing cookie

Certain Consequences For Certain Behaviors

A blog reader wrote: 1 - We don't have a "rule" or certain consequence set up for every behavior in the book (nor do we want so many specific rules!)  So, I'm wondering if "just-plain-not-doing-what-you-know-... more
Angry Children

When Is It Tattling?

"I agree that there are definitely times I want my kids to tell me about what's been happening, and you mentioned that you make sure your foster kids know the difference between the two--how do you that?  Some... more
Tantrum Face

Poopy Pants and Tantrums

Nicholeen, I have one problem I have not figured out how to resolve.  My son (6) is a great kid, but there is one thing that sets him off every time to the point that he hits, kicks, screams, says unkind th... more

Are You Assertive?

If you are going to effectively learn how to govern yourself, you have to be assertive.  Teaching Self Government is essentially teaching how to act assertively as oppose to agressively or passively.  Are you... more

"It's Time To Go To Bed."

Nicholeen, I have a 9-year old boy. He is a typical 9-year old boy, I believe, in that his mind (and mouth) is constantly going 200 miles an hour. His siblings are always waiting for him to stop talking so they... more

Tell Them What to Say

Even after we teach our children how to follow an instruction or how to accept a NO answer, our children will sometimes forget that they can choose to say, "OK".  The other day I told my son that he needed to... more