The Essence of Self-Government
Whenever I talk to people about teaching their children how to govern their own behaviors, some wise parent will say something like this to me, “I can see that to teach self government, you have to have it yourself. That is the hardest part of all of this.”
I agree. That is the hardest part of any relationship we are in. We want things to change, and so we immediately start forcing change instead of analyzing and controlling ourselves to create the right environment for change.
This environment for change and teaching is the essence of Self-Government. If our homes, and our very persons feel calm, assertive, loving, trusting, and safe then our interactions and teachings with our children, spouses, and others will be effective and feeling.
In this implementation step, the essence of self government, you will hear a new class all about the basic fundamentals of self government thinking so that you can use them in all your relationships. You will also get to hear one of my recent presentations called, The Power of Calm, which goes into detail about how I stay calm when others around are choosing not to.
As well as these presentations, we have complied text documents which are specific to staying calm, how to do it, and how you can improve the tone in your home.
Remember, the tone in your home is what allows the self government to happen and be taught. If your home feels volatile and fearful, then your home will only cause reactions instead of promoting good decision making and healthy discussions about cause and effect.
You are just beginning an exciting journey to your own self mastery. I hope you embrace this moment and choose personal change so that you can more effectively change the hearts of your family members too.
Chapters ofParenting A House UnitedTo Read: 2, 18, 19, 30