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Angry little girl

Ah, 3 Year Olds!

My 3 year old is the one I'm really struggling with. She doesn't take a NO answer well at all, even when we practice.  She does really well when we practice, but when it comes to doing it for real, then we ha... more
Child pouting

Helping Young Children Accept "No" Answers

"Nicholeen, I was wondering how you teach these principles to the younger children.  My children are (almost) 8, (almost) 6, 3.5, 20 months, and a 2 week old.  (not that I expect to be doing this with the new... more
Mother and daughter talking

Public Parenting

"I get tired of being the only parent trying to get my kids to behave properly, and having my nieces and kids’ friends look at me like I’m the wicked witch or something!  I want my kids to be able to enjoy... more
Smiling Children

Dealing With Negative Social Influences

Nicholeen, My children are usually very well-behaved away from home, and I take them with me to most places I go--the grocery and clothes stores, church functions, friends homes, relatives homes, we have even t... more
Blue flax flower

A Parable

     Sometimes when parents start teaching their children how to govern themselves, the children start to fight against the new system.  Many people don't cope with change well, and children are often more... more
Woman swimming

Triathlon VS Parenting: The Comparisons

          In my seminars I tell a story about when I did the swimming leg of a triathlon and the life lessons I learned from that experience.  I am not going to restate all the lessons we discuss in d... more
Birds and bees

When do you talk about "it"?

I have to ask it because it’s something I struggle with talking about to my kids . . . when do you talk to your children about sex?  How do you go about it so that they understand that sex is actually a goo... more
Happy Family of 3

Family Meeting Tips

Don't forget your meetings! Family meetings are the core of Teaching Self-Government.  If you have weekly family meetings, the whole family will stay focused on their family government.  See what happens whe... more

Character Building

In our family meeting this Sunday a topic was brought up that our family needs to do more service.  We asked for suggestions.  After going over many options, we decided that Dad would call a ranch in our c... more
Girl stealing cookie

Certain Consequences For Certain Behaviors

A blog reader wrote: 1 - We don't have a "rule" or certain consequence set up for every behavior in the book (nor do we want so many specific rules!)  So, I'm wondering if "just-plain-not-doing-what-you-know-... more
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