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Happy and sad face girl

Do You See What I See?

Over the last year, my niece has gone through a change.  The once happy, helpful girl changed into a whiny, depressed, girl that didn't look at life the same.  One day I got left home with the all the childre... more
Father sending child to her room

Speed Things Up

"My daughter takes 10 minutes to actually say 'OK' to an instruction.  How do I speed things up?" If it's taking 10 minutes for the daughter to say "Okay" to an instruction, then she is having a power struggl... more
Girl explaining something to Dad

The Why's To Disagreeing Appropriately

When I see my children are getting frustrated, I gently remind them that they can disagree appropriately.  I even tell my children exactly how to disagree with ME sometimes.  The point of the skill is to lear... more
Little boy folding his arms and sulking

When To Give Consequences And Do Corrections

When and how do you give consequences?  For example, if you instruct your son to go clean his room (assuming you've prepped him for accepting a consequence) and he whines and says, "I don't want to do it... more
Son won't listen to his parents

Establishing Consequences

"...We taught the 4 basic skills and the kids had a lot of fun role-playing the way to respond to the different situations, they especially loved disagreeing appropriately! :)  Well, I hadn't determined what... more
Guy hugging girl

Appropriate Touch

"You mentioned you have touching rules for friends, family, and neighbors–do you mind sharing them?" There are rules and boundaries for touching for different groups of people. Know what they are and make su... more
Confused/thinking boy

The Children Want To Know Why...

"My 14 yo son is quite a thinker. He always wants to know "why?" about everything. And isn't that wonderful? ...lately we've been having a little trouble with respect for authority. He questions why, but the au... more
Girl in doorway

The Times We Live In Part 2

"My husband works at a jail and just a few weeks ago a man we both know from school and church was brought in on sexual charges. His niece was supposedly the victim. Both of us were very surprised, as we wouldn... more
Little girl covering her eyes

The Times We Live In Part 1

A reader wrote to me telling me about a young neighborhood child that introduced things of a sexual nature to her daughter.  This is not a fun subject.  I have been avoiding putting it on the site, but the mo... more

Whose Fault is It?

About five years ago I met a couple who seemed to have happiness in marriage completely figured out.  They shared some of their secrets with me.  One of them has made a huge impact on our home.  It is called... more
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