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I’ve read your book “a house United” I loved it. Thank you so much. I’m feeling pressure to change my parenting as I tend to lean toward the kind and weak spectrum. I know this is not working I need to change as my husband is getting very annoyed with the children’s behavior. We have a lot of whining and not listening, especially from the 10-year-old and the eight-year-old. the five-year-old is starting as well. My husband’s way of disciplining is the authoritarian way using a wooden spoon to threaten. This causes us much grief in our marriage. I feel we are never on the same page. Right now he is withdrawn, and tends to leave all of the Parenting to me, as he realizes I dislike the threats. But it’s all to overwhelming for me to handle it all on my own and my husband feels this is the only way they listen. (He has a hard time with conversations and connections). Would love to just sneak away with him and take the course together, not sure where that would be. I have ordered the bundle and look forward to reading the kids books to them and start to teach them but feel it will be to hard and then I’m afraid it will all slide and go back to our “normal”. Any advice would be appreciated

Debbie