Daughter with phobias

Hi Nicholeen! I just wanted to first quickly say how grateful I am for you and your program! We have been using the skills as best as we can and it's making a world of difference in our daughter so far! I truly am so excited and hopeful for what our family is becoming! We still are a work in progress of course, and I have a question about how to handle a certain behavior with our 10 year old daughter. She has a very short fuse for bugs, and certain sounds. If she sees a bug, she will normally run off in a total panic or yell. She also gets very disrespectful towards my husband when he eats, or kisses me. She has a sensitivity to some sounds, and I do understand because I have them too but I choose to be in control because I don't want to make my husband feel bad, even though sometimes it's very difficult. She will breath loudly in annoyance and has even called attention to him about it disrespectfully. I have corrected and offered suggestions to cope but she's still struggles. Any ideas?