We have an 18 month old daughter who purposely gets out of the calm down spot to have me (her mom) hold her in the calm down spot. She doesn't do this with her Dad. When asked if she wants mommy to hold her in the calm down spot she stops crying, (she doesn't know how to say yes yet but knows how to say no). Then she will start crying again but stops every time when asked again. My husband thinks she may be getting angry and staying angry because she gets the "reward" of having mom hold her in the calm down spot. He also doesn't want her to learn that she can only calm down with mom rather than calming down by herself. But I'm not sure if a child wanting to be held in the calm down spot is similar to when a child enjoys doing extra chores and there really isn't an issue. I also don't want to purposely make the calm down spot unenjoyable so she doesn't want to be held either.
Is it okay that our daughter enjoys calming down with me or is there something we should do to help her want to calm down by herself? Also, does standing up in the calm down spot to see Mom and Dad constitute as getting out of the calm down spot? Just trying to figure out what you define as getting out of the calm down spot.