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Dear Nickoleen, we are up to the power of calm in the TSG parenting course and this is huge for both of us parents. We need this so much. We both saw how often we were manipulating our children in different ways but there was always manipulation happening. Our children all know of the four basic skills but still often earn chores. In thinking i feel we are using the chores as another way of manipulation. NOT meaning too but we are in a spiral of corrective teaching instead of praising. We have 9 children with a great abundance of excitement, energy and anger. (we parents both know where the anger came from….) Anyway how can we turn our family around to stop arguments and anger and become a joyful family? Before my husband was so busy at work he was really exciting and happy at home. Since starting to homeschool at the beginning of the year with all 8 children at once I was more enthusiastic. Don't get me wrong, I love homeschooling, it is wonderful but just massive going into it with 8 children with no experience with it before this time. Any ideas with any of this? With so much appreciation for your course we are seeing ourselves very vividly in it and realizing that we are the ones to change and are changing but not as fast as we both need to. Thank you Thank you Thank you for the course and your wonderful advice. God bless you.