Anxiety and long hair
My daughter 13 has really long thick hair – she insists on washing it every night but waits up really late to do it – (10pm) and it takes 1/2 hour – she says she won’t get started earlier “because it’s too hard”
Her dad has told her often “go brush your hair it’s frizzy” which is not a suitable thing for Curley hair & now she’s looping in her head that she’s ugly and her dad hates her and she’s afraid not to wash it and displease him.
We attempted some sodas to discuss her options and she was unreasonable on all of them – she said cutting isn’t an option and changing her routine isn’t an option.
Issue 2: she is getting into scraps with the younger 2 siblings. They all know it’s a “no answer” the receive consequences but don’t really do them/ they show little remorse. We talk about family standards and vision but it’s like they enjoy the attention from each other and then from us in viewing what they have done.
I have taken to telling them “you chose to fight now you are hurt I am not talking to you about it” but that makes them say I am mean.
They are all telling me I am mean – we are doing family fun time: we are watching movies buying special food but they feel like their favourite “privelage” it to be rude and at the family time because we have said they won’t miss out on family fun time because it’s scheduled in fun…
Issue 3: they all tell me they don’t like school – it’s a bit of a strange school it’s Christian and indigenous and the children are really rough and rude but mine are doing their best at being the most unkind with the little two having a “sassy squad” attitude and ganging up their friends on other girls. They do this unkindness wherever they go – even at church – with the 6 year old telling the 13 year olds friends they are ugly and have pimples!
And the 8year old demanding things from 13 year old “so I will leave you alone”
I am exhausted & don’t know how to keep a lid on it! They have no reverence and no respect.
I am thinking to homeschool them but they just behave badly for me:
I start the day with calm kind corrections “we don’t do that we do this” and by the middle of the day I am telling them “you chose that I can’t help you” and at night it’s “go to bed and stay there or you will get a spank!” (Literally the only thing to keep the other 2 away from each other while I tuck in the 3rd!)
4. My boy is well behaved but using screens to escape from the chaos.
What can i do ? I pray already! I have done course…