“I like Dad better than Mom,” I said to my younger brother one sunny afternoon while sitting on the back of our rusty old Suburban. The moment I said that I knew that just a few weeks prior I was telling him that I liked Mom better than Dad. I knew I had changed my mind, but it seemed to make sense to me. I liked whatever parent seemed to be more in control of themselves at the time. I always felt safer around the parent that wasn’t emotional or inconsistent. That was the parent I tended to favor. When either one of my parents was having a bad week, I felt like I needed to hide my actions from the emotional parent. I talked to the emotional parent less, avoided this parent more, and even told lies to avoid any negative attention. I’m sure my response to this parent’s …
Posted by Monica Pond on April 25, 2018
I’ve previously talked about how teens go through normal detachment from their families. That’s to be expected. It’s the abnormal detachment that parents should watch for. Parents need to know what normal detachment looks like and the warning signs of abnormal detachment that can signal larger problems.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on October 9, 2018
Our family loves games! We play card games, board games, outdoor games, sports, and imagination games. Sometimes we have conversations about games we play, but most of the time we talk about things of more substance such as family, improving relationships, truths we’ve found, books we’ve read, experiences we’ve had, memories we share, family history, skills, problem solving, religion, politics, goals, questions we have, and dreams. Once when talking about a game we both enjoyed, I analyzed a conversation with my son. It was fun to get excited about a game, but something was missing in that conversation that usually appeared in our other conversations. Purpose, personal impact, and unity were all missing from the conversation. People love when their conversations have meaning or purpose for their lives. When we leave a conversation that inspires us to become a better person or gives us an insight to ourselves or others …
Posted by Richard on June 1, 2020
This call covers: Having private rooms and moving the toys around. Using the chore system in Primary. Spouse on board with system at fist, but not anymore. Young boy willALWAYSgoes out of control when getting an instruction. How to give your husband more responsibility.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 28, 2016
This Call Covers:Teenage children who refuse to be part of the TSG systemChildren who are confused on their role in the family
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 13, 2019
This call covers:Foster/adopted children having the capacity to get calm?Sneaking snacks and food.Positive consequence system.Wandering off when out of control.Pushback to disagreeing appropriately.
Posted by David Eggertsen on August 8, 2019
This call covers: Little bit about what is spoken of at the United Nations Husband saying and believing two different things about the children. How to replace the spirit of selfishness with the spirit of love. Teaching respect of property to young sons.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on March 29, 2017
This Call Covers:Helping a spouse get motivated to do TSGGetting children to focus with the familyTeaching children to disagree appropriately about what they wantFinding good gifts for children
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on December 18, 2018
This Call Covers:helping children stay calm and avoid attention seeking behaviorsHelping your spouse be consistent with implementation to help the children progressTeaching children to play.The proper way to make decisions for your children.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on January 5, 2019
When today’s parents were children, the costume was all about sticking out individually. But today’s young people and families are leaning more and more toward theme costumes. Why is this? Well, modern youth and families are more about togetherness than their parent’s generation. Also, the youth seem to recognize the power of community and/or the group as a greater power than the power of the individual. This trend is empowering to many youth — but can be devastating to others. This new social mindset makes fitting in and having a group even more important than before. As anxiety, depression and bullying are on the rise, one can’t help but wonder if the group mindset is also creating a socially fragile world for a large majority of youth. Make the Group Mindset the Family All the more reason to strengthen the family group! If the family group is healthy and strong, …
Posted by Monica Pond on October 30, 2018
“If our society is coming apart at the seams, it is because the tailor and the seamstress in the home are not producing the kind of stitching that will hold under stress. In the name of giving advantages, we have too often bartered away the real opportunities of our children.” (1981, Be Thou an Example, Gordon B. Hinckley)In these modern times, Hinckley’s statement might be seen as too blunt or even not understanding of some parents who are trying their best to raise good children in these hard times. To focus on what this statement is not, however, misses the mark completely.This honest assessment by Hinckley is a call to action for parents. He was saying that parents are creating something in their homes. They are producers of a product, just as tailors and seamstresses are producers of clothing. The valuable products parents potentially produce are good adults who strengthen …
Posted by Monica Pond on January 4, 2019
Parents and school administrators have requested that I make a short, free curriculum that parents can use to help their children navigate some of the social issues children are often forced to encounter at young ages. This curriculum is basic but deep, and it’s a principle-based lesson plan to help parents prepare their children to be free-thinking, discerning, loving, and confident during these times of ideological warfare. The goal of this lesson plan is to initiate parent/child discussions that lead to families deliberately living by principles, better parent/child bonding, and create an environment where children are prepared to stand out and speak up when needed in loving ways about hotly-debated topics or differences of opinion. The lessons build upon each other and are meant to be implemented in order, although they don’t have to be. For additional insight on these lessons intended to create uniting and empowering family cultures for …
Posted by Monica Pond on June 22, 2021