My views have changed. During my teen and young adult years, I thought that women needed to do everything men did, and women did, in order to be strong. But, now that I have seen every dimension of womanhood firsthand, I see that my views of women and myself lacked depth and understanding when I […]
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Two to three times per day, my 17-year-old son spontaneously comes up to me as I’m coming down the hall or when I’m standing in the kitchen, and wraps his arms around me and gives me a tender, loving hug. “Oh, Mom…I love you,” he says. These hugs are some of the highlights of my
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This call covers:
basing your happiness on your Childs success.
Principles for a family mission statement.
Teens having FOMO.
thoughts on different parenting ideas.
prioritizing time with sports.
keeping controversial conversations calm with adult children.
help with dropping the subject.
friend time.
Child being oppositional about school.
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Parents and school administrators have requested that I make a short, free curriculum that parents can use to help their children navigate some of the social issues children are often forced to encounter at young ages. This curriculum is basic but deep, and it’s a principle-based lesson plan to help parents prepare their children to
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“Look Mom, this water bottle has a description. The water is described as ‘mouth-watering water,” said Porter with a chuckle. “This water calls itself smart, but I’m not sure that description seems very smart,” he added. This was too much for me. I completely broke down into a laughing attack over this ridiculous notion that
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Chris W. shared this shocking story with me about his experience last week with his son at a California park. “My son and I were playing soccer at a park in the bay area of California. Multiple African American boys came up to my son and started punching him in the head for no reason.
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There is a myth that parents from past generations didn’t understand or care about the feelings of their children as much as they should have or as much as modern parents do. This isn’t true. I’m never a fan of putting whole generations of people into boxes just because there are a few horror stories.
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An exasperated woman, whose marriage was falling apart, said to me, “Nicholeen, my husband is obsessed by principles. He keeps telling me that I don’t understand principles and that I’m not living by principles. How do you define principles?” This woman’s husband lived according to his own made-up rules, such as hiding things from
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“I don’t have the time to catch every little thing the kids do. I run a business, I have a large family, and I homeschool. Isn’t there an easier way to stop the bad behaviors than having to correct every one of them? I think I need the condensed, quicker approach to parenting,” said Gwen,
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This call covers:
how to address self pleasure.
Adult children claiming TSG is abuse.
Thinking your 11 year old is overeating.
Helping child with self harm.
how to address when other people are gossiping.
interrupting during a correction.
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Think of the voices that surround our children. Voices leading children to love money, God, family, power, popularity, prestige, entitlement, activism, intellectual achievement, personal worth, truth, pleasure-seeking, time wasting, productivity, industry, judgment, despair, and more. It’s easy to see how some of these voices mislead and hurt a child’s potential. Yet, these voices oftentimes
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This call covers:
Book lists.
Helping 2 year old stay clam.
Having a comfort object in calm down time.
bottling emotions. Does TSG cause this?
SODAS as a consequence.
Tantrums at the store.
Being in the room while children go to bed.
Helping children choose self control.
Homeschool vs. public school.
Helping children see the good of SODAS.
Teens getting a job.
Timing of disagree appropriately.
Relationships with children getting worse after TSG.
Helping kids become better workers.
understood instruction so speak a certain language for the day.
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this call covers:
College prep for kids in high school (homeschool)
sleep independence for 4 year old.
non religious morning cannon and finding truth.
close look at scholar phase.
TJED homeschool help.
becoming a certified mentor.
play time with destructive 2 year old.
Family reading time.
encouraging listening behaviors
what kids to give attention to first when they all want it.
there is not enough time and i think I’m failing.
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This call covers:
Helping children get calm.
Creating set no answers.
Helping children remembering to check back.
Homeschooling methods and fears.
Explaining set no answers (making messes and cleaning them up) to children.
setting boundaries with teens who have boyfriends, and older siblings roles.
husband having anger problems.
Family meeting troubles.
Teaching toddlers TSG.
Building trust with technology.
Helping children recognize emotions V.S feelings.
constantly nagging children.
feeling hopeless about your family.
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Children need to feel love from their parents more than ever before. And, our neighbors need love too. That unconditional, deep and abiding love will help our children weather the storms of life. Love is the truth that fills the soul and gives life hope and meaning. Maybe, during this time of social and political
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This call covers:
Pre-teaching concepts before implementing them.
Mentor meeting suggestions.
Siblings hating each other.
Rule of three for strong willed child.
Pre-teaching big changes.
Finding motivation to stick with TSG.
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Relationships require selfless service to survive. Although there are multiple reasons people site for their relationship dysfunctions, from infidelity to arguments, relationship problems usually all have two things in common: dishonesty and selfishness. According to The Institute For Family Studies, the leading causes of divorce are: infidelity, incompatibility, drinking or drug use, growing apart, a
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Think about Santa. He works all day every day without pay to get ready for one exciting night when he works harder than he has ever worked before in order to bring happiness. Think about Jesus. He worked every day of His mortal ministry; teaching, leading, healing, walking, serving others, and travailing to prepare Him
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In 2012, a woman attending one of my Teaching Self-Government parenting trainings began to cry in the middle of my presentation about different styles of parenting. She timidly raised her hand and I called upon her to speak. Through sobs and tears she said, “My mom was that modern progressive, permissive type of parent you
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This call covers:
Husband and wife relation ship and TSG.
13 your old son doesn’t want to go to activities.
16 year old daughter appears to accept out rules but then steals phone after hours.
teaching children about roles.
Improving sibling relationships.
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