In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what negative attention seeking looks like in younger children and in adults. What do you do when a child is purposely naughty to get your attention? Or when a friend of yours is passive-aggresive and degrading about a certain aspect of their life? Take a listen to find out the skills you can use to help your friends and family stop seeking negative attention. https://tsg-podcasts.s3.amazonaws.com/2020/March/TSGPodcast08-StoppingNegativeAttentionSeeking-Mar30-2020.mp3
Posted by Paije Baumert on April 1, 2020
Is your home in crisis? Do your children never do what they are told? Do you find yourself completely overwhelmed and hating to interact with your children? Do your children treat you with disrespect and cause contention at home? Are you out of control of your emotions as a parent too? If any of these descriptions sound like your house, then you might be in crisis and you will definitely benefit from reading this book. It is written for you. This book is also written for people who don‘t want to ever have a home like I have described above and for parents who want to have an effectively communicating family right from the very beginning of parenthood.
Posted by Richard on April 28, 2020
I’m often asked how to parent in public. So many parents are tired of being the only ones trying to get their kids to behave properly and having their kids’ friends look at them like they’re acting like the wicked witch. Parents want their kids to enjoy playing with friends, but that doesn’t mean they have to let their children misbehave or do things that are rude or inappropriate. It really boils down to knowing how to handle different expectations of children’s behavior.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on December 27, 2018
Dear Fellow Parent, Without a doubt, the most difficult part of parenting in this day and age is deciding how to handle the digital and sexual world that is knocking on the doors of our homes. How do we help our children prepare for the real world? When temptations come, how do they learn how to self-govern themselves on devices? Is there a way to have self-government and a cell phone during childhood? How can parents navigate this socially and emotionally charged world of sex and technology while protecting the hearts of their children? Protecting the innocence of children and preparing them for digital self-government is possible! This one-day, online seminar is focused on understanding the little-understood elements of the tech/sexual world. This will help parents know how they can keep their children safe. Learn how to set up the proper home environment for protecting and freeing your family from digital and sexual addictions that are so prevalent today. …
Posted by Richard on April 28, 2020
Even though there seems to be more self-absorbed people around us than ever before, calling someone a narcissist may miss the mark. In fact, many people who seem to possess narcissistic behavior, might just be prideful. There is a difference. People all over the world share their relationship struggles and personal development goals with me in an effort to better learn self-government. These conversations have made quite an impression on me. As a result of these conversations, I’ve noticed that narcissistic disorders as well as prideful behavior in relationships are both increasingly damaging family bonds and healthy child development, as well as creating social drama and decreasing productivity in business. As a society, we need to understand these behaviors and know what we can do to stop the pride and narcissism trends. So, what’s the difference between pride and narcissism? Baseline behavior for normal people includes: Recognizing they’re wrong about …
Posted by Monica Pond on January 25, 2021
Bethany, a troubled parent, recently shared a shocking story that all too often illustrates what parents nowadays are dealing with: “After we caught our 11-year-old son sending pornographic photos of himself to strangers on Snapchat, we took his phone away. We told him he could have it back in a couple of weeks, but that he needed to learn his behavior was wrong. He is so upset now that he sulks around the house and never talks to friends or us. We feel like we’ve ruined his happiness and that he’s lacking socially because he doesn’t have his phone. In fact, we’re pretty sure he’s dealing with depression. This has us worried because he has said suicidal things in the past when he received negative consequences. Is there a better way to handle this situation? Did we do the right thing?” Modern times has brought with it complexity to parenting …
Posted by Monica Pond on July 12, 2017
Chris W. shared this shocking story with me about his experience last week with his son at a California park. “My son and I were playing soccer at a park in the bay area of California. Multiple African American boys came up to my son and started punching him in the head for no reason. When I attempted to stop the beating of my son, an Asian woman yelled at me and called me names and referred to me as ‘privileged.’ I was so shocked. I couldn’t believe that this was happening to me and my son in the bay area where I grew up.” Who is teaching our children about relationships, discrimination, equality, and love now? And, what are the lessons? As society becomes more wild, we need to examine the teaching and media messages that are producing this kind of incivility, prejudice, and hostility. Although not …
Posted by Monica Pond on May 17, 2021
Think of the voices that surround our children. Voices leading children to love money, God, family, power, popularity, prestige, entitlement, activism, intellectual achievement, personal worth, truth, pleasure-seeking, time wasting, productivity, industry, judgment, despair, and more. It’s easy to see how some of these voices mislead and hurt a child’s potential. Yet, these voices oftentimes come from people who say, or even think, that they are helping children. No matter the voice, the child is influenced. But, two voices have a greater power to win the heart and loyalty of the children; the parents. It’s toward parents, these key players in the advancement of society and morality, that our devotion should lean. “German novelist Jean Paul observed, ‘The conscience of children is formed by the influences that surround them; their notions of good and evil are the result of the moral atmosphere they breathe.’ For new human beings the …
Posted by Monica Pond on March 7, 2021
Generally, most parents want their children to have good social skills. They want them to be well liked and to be kind, respectful communicators. Unfortunately, some of these very well-meaning parents might actually be destroying the child’s ability to become this kind, respectful and socially mature person, and they don’t even know they are doing it.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on December 10, 2014
No matter the amount of technology that’s developed to filter devices in order to keep children from viewing objectionable material, the mental, physical and spiritual risks of digital devices facing children have never been greater. Note: In this article I’m using the word “phone” liberally to mean all digital devices that are in regular use in the lives of our children. Parents commonly share with me the concerns they have about their child’s cell phone usage and how they feel they’re constantly talking about phone usage. They mention children sneaking phones when they shouldn’t have them; not giving the phones up to the parent when they are supposed to; overusing the phone during alone time, in classroom settings, and in social situations; and missing sleep because of phone usage. It doesn’t have to be this way. Parents don’t have to battle these digital devices to reach the hearts and minds …
Posted by Monica Pond on April 13, 2018
(This event is not hosted by TSG. Nicholeen Peck will be a guest speaker.) September 24-25, 2021
Posted by Monica Pond on September 20, 2021
It really is shocking. Society is transforming tremendously fast. In the past 10 years the United States has become drastically divided as a nation on important issues like the value of life, the value of religious institutions and morals, and the value of the natural family — as well as what constitutes proper education. The list could go on. Fruitless debates fill the airwaves and the Internet. Families feel attacked, individuals feel devalued, and children are becoming more aggressive and depressed. What is happening to the world? The answer is that counter culture has become the new culture. Luckily, the families of the world still have hope. If culture and the process of creating or changing culture are understood, then deliberate action is all that’s required to start positive social shifts right in the home. Parents who offer their children deliberate cultural and counter cultural understanding, as well as skills …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on January 26, 2016