Relationships

Certain Consequences For Certain Behaviors

2 Comments / All, Home Culture, Using TSG Skills / Nicholeen Peck

A blog reader wrote:

1 – We don’t have a “rule” or certain consequence set up for every behavior in the book (nor do we want so many specific rules!) So, I’m wondering if “just-plain-not-doing-what-you-know-you-should” (be kind, be respectful, be responsible, be honest, don’t hit, tease, talk back, etc.) would be considered “not following instructions”, and would it then be followed up with the usual – an extra job, followed by SODAS, then major maintenance, and 24 hours without privileges…? Or is it better to assign certain consequences to certain behaviors?

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When Is It Tattling?

Leave a Comment / All, Using TSG Skills / Nicholeen Peck

“I agree that there are definitely times I want my kids to tell me about what’s been happening, and you mentioned that you make sure your foster kids know the difference between the two–how do you that? Sometimes it’s really hard for ME to tell when it’s reporting, and when it’s tattling. Besides physically hurting one another, would you want your kids to report things like teasing, saying unkind things or rude words, not helping with a chore that everyone has been given to do together, or taking a toy from someone?”

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Don’t …

1 Comment / All, Home Culture, TSG Principles / Nicholeen Peck

A lot of children have selective hearing; have you noticed? Some of this selective hearing is planned and some isn’t. They really don’t hear us correctly sometimes. We can do something to make sure this doesn’t happen as often. Have you ever said don’t run down the hall, and the first thing your child does is run down the hall? My mom used to say to me, “Don’t talk back to me.” The first thing I did after this instruction was talk back to her. Strange. It is never a good idea to start an instruction with the word don’t, because whatever you say after don’t might be

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Important Things

1 Comment / All, Relationships, Toddlers (0-4), TSG Principles / Nicholeen Peck

Those voices all around me;

“You’re wasting time,” they say.

The yard,dishes,big project

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Are You Assertive?

Leave a Comment / All, TSG Principles, Using TSG Skills / Nicholeen Peck

If you are going to effectively learn how to govern yourself, you have to be assertive. Teaching Self Government is essentially teaching how to act assertively as oppose to agressively or passively. Are you assertive? Take this test. You are in line at a grocery store and someone steps in front of you in line. Do you think bad thoughts about the person but choose not to say anything because it would feel uncomfortable? Do you say, “Excuse me sir, but I am in line. The back of the line is over there. Could you move to the back of th

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Fixing Things With Father

Leave a Comment / All, Relationships, TSG Principles, Using TSG Skills / Nicholeen Peck

I received a question from a mother who is struggling with her husband not being motivated or involved in family life. This is OUR response.

Dear Motivated Mother:

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Love and Logic Vs. Teaching Self Government

1 Comment / All, TSG Principles / Nicholeen Peck

Nicholeen, “I’ve been to a couple of Love and Logic classes. While l love the information about the brain, using love and natural consequences, I really struggle to implement the principles in the heat of the moment. Here’s an excerpt from one of the articles on their website, I wondered what you thought given the

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