Index: Problem Solving
March 4, 2020
Why do we cater to our stresses and forget to choose calmness? After all, calmness is the only state where we truly feel safe and empowered. Stress, anger, and frustration never lead to true empowerment or peace, only emotional bondage.In 1998, when I was the young mother of a small baby and a toddler,and before I went through a complete… Read more »
July 11, 2022
It’s currently commonplace to see youth aggressively confronting adults when, not too long ago, that behavior would never have been condoned. And, sadly this aggressive behavior is being misinterpreted as behavior necessary for the emotional safety of the child. If parents want to be the ‘safe place’ for their child, then it’s vital that they don’t lose sight of their… Read more »
September 7, 2021
An online school teacher was recently giving me the highlights of his career. He proudly told me that his favorite part of his job was that he gets to teach children discernment. I could see how this would be exciting for him but was also instantly concerned. A series of “what if” questions came to mind. What if the teacher… Read more »
May 15, 2008
Recently, I have had a number of emails asking questions about how to use SODAS. If you aren’t aware, SODAS are a problem solving exercise that I learned how to use while working for the Utah Youth Village. The exercises are wonderful for teaching the children and youth that there are always other options to choose during situations. A question:… Read more »
March 14, 2019
A week ago, I was standing in the kitchen canning peaches, and my whole family atmosphere fell apart all around me in a matter of five minutes. My son was asked by his father to help with something in the back yard. My son didn’t want to do it, so he decided to have an attitude problem about it. My… Read more »
December 16, 2019
Some might think that optimistic people are fake or somehow disconnected from reality, but I know for a fact that positivity is one of our choices no matter what circumstances are before us. Russell Nelsontaught that our “joy has little to do with the circumstances of our lives, but everything to do with the focus of our lives.” (Joy and… Read more »
May 6, 2008
Sometimes when parents start teaching their children how to govern themselves, the children start to fight against the new system. Many people don’t cope with change well, and children are often more anxious during times of change than adults. People look at whatever they have become as normal and comfortable.We don’t like to step out of our comfort zones and… Read more »
March 9, 2017
One night, after my parents left to go on a date, my brother and I started fighting. I vividly remember the fight getting to the point where both of us were standing on a couch threatening each other with broomsticks. This sad memory changed me. Many times over the years I’ve had that memory return, but with a goal attached… Read more »
July 13, 2008
We got home late. My four year old fell asleep on the way home. After waking up, he came in to go potty, get dressed and go to bed. From the bathroom I heard crying. He was in there for a long time. He was in the bathroom trying to clean up a mess that he had made in his… Read more »
January 24, 2019
“Is it okay for children to correct their parents?” I often get asked by parents who are hoping to be just in their parenting. My answer to them is, “Well, that all depends how and when it’s done. There is a right way and a wrong way to correct children, and for children to correct their parents.”At 16, after years… Read more »
March 28, 2018
I participated in a recent demonstration at the United Nations to oppose the sexualization of children by UN agencies. These agencies are supposed to protect children. Right in the middle of my speech, a woman opposed to my views stuck a piece of paper in front of my face. The contentious act by this woman, who some call “the snake,”… Read more »
November 9, 2018
“Calmness is the rarest quality in human life. It is the poise of a great nature, in harmony with itself and its ideals. It is the moral atmosphere of a life self-centred, self-reliant, and self- controlled. Calmness is singleness of purpose, absolute confidence, and conscious power — ready to be focused in an instant to meet any crisis.” (William George… Read more »
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Addictions
- Eating Disorders (11)
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- Social (115)
- Urgency Addictions (15)
Age
- Adult Children (179)
- Adults (190)
- Grandparents (53)
- Teens (Youth) (381)
- Toddlers & Younger Children (357)
- Tweens (172)
Behaviors
- Attitude (141)
- Bedtime (48)
- Begging (14)
- Boundaries (90)
- Bullying (37)
- Car Behavior (12)
- Depression (38)
- Entitlement (97)
- Etiquette (8)
- Hitting (27)
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- Lying (59)
- Manipulation (138)
- Meal Time (16)
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- Out of Instructional Control (130)
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- Religious Troubles (23)
- Sex (26)
- Shy Children (10)
- Whining (44)
- Yelling (26)
Consequences
- Chores (143)
- Motivating and Inspiration (141)
- Privileges (50)
- Rewards (39)
- SODAS: Problem Solving Exercises (48)
- Time-Out (for ages 7-8 and younger) (44)
Education
- Homeschool (144)
- Private School (32)
- Public School (50)
Relationships
- Abuse (29)
- Authority (109)
- Babysitting (21)
- Character Building (182)
- Control (91)
- Couple Relationship (110)
- Culture (187)
- Dating (33)
- Expectations (177)
- Marriage Relationship (93)
- Money (12)
- Mutual Respect (118)
- Power Struggling (160)
- Respect (205)
- Roles (256)
- Sibling Interactions (149)
- Spouse (81)
Skills
- Accepting No Answers and Criticism (235)
- Analyzing (185)
- Correcting (251)
- Disagreeing Appropriately (178)
- Dropping the subject (82)
- Encouragement (101)
- Following Instructions (122)
- Four Basic Skills (157)
- Group Problem Solving (66)
- No Answers (186)
- Praise (125)
- Pre-Teach (267)
- Problem Solving (136)
- Rule of Three (ages 6-8+) (108)
- Social Skills (183)
- Work Ethic (64)
Structure
- Family Culture (308)
- Family Economy (27)
- Family Standard (81)
- Mentor Sessions (78)
- Mission Statement (26)
- Priorities (79)
Tone
- Anxiety (101)
- Assertive Communication (185)
- Balance (104)
- Calm (249)
- Changing Hearts (183)
- Common Vision Creation (170)
- Connecting (Looking in the eyes) (95)
- Describe (73)
- Family Unity (189)
- Mission (49)
- Power of Calm (116)
- Seek to Understand (122)
- Unity (115)
- Vision (140)