Index: Out of Instructional Control

How does 24 hours loss of privilegeswork in your house? Let’s say a13 year old boydoesn’t want to get on board. Buthe shouldn’t be allowed to just hole up in his room away from the rest of the family!However, I have foundthat sending him to sit on his bed is the most effective thingthat can be done. Consequences are so… Read more »

Nicholeen, Your peaceful parenting methods obviously work so well with older children and troubled teenagers. But, I have a house full of little children. Each day I face terrible twos, three year old tantrums, and four year old tantrums. Can children this young learn to govern themselves too?Answer: How ToStopTantrumsThis article is NOT just fortoddlers. Parenting toddlers is difficult. Many… Read more »

I should have corrected him right there, but for some reason, I let him whine at me. It is always better to correct all negative behaviors as soon as possible.… Read more »

“Hi Nicholeen, I have been working hard to implement the principles you have taught me. I have seen a huge difference in how I parent and respond to my children. However, there has been one side effect I was not expecting. Because of my poor parenting in the past, they have developed a habit of responding with ange… Read more »

Nicholeen, I have one problem I have not figured out how to resolve. My son (6)is a great kid, but there is one thing that sets him off every time to the point that he hits, kicks, screams, says unkind things, and basically acts like the whole world is against him so why try. This happens every time without fail… Read more »

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the specifics of how a family begins to fall apart and become dysfunctional, step by step. It always starts small and on an individual level. Can you tell your family dynamic is headed in a potentially dangerous direction, but can’t really pinpoint the underlying issue that’s causing the problems? Do you know what… Read more »

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss two related ideas: what is seen and what is not seen. People sometimes focus so much on what is seen that they don’t look for what is not seen and what could be the cause of what is being seen on the surface. There needs to be a balance of both perspectives. Listen… Read more »

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the difference between emotions and feelings, how feelings can be communicated without emotional “vomiting,” and worldwide misconceptions about how emotions and feelings should govern us. Do you or someone you know feel like they have to dump their emotions in order to work through something? Not true! Listen in for some amazing tips… Read more »

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the important and necessary element of calmness in everyday life. We dare you to be calm! Are you committed to being calm with yourself and with your family? Do you have what it takes? Of course you do! And even if you think you don’t, listen in to get instruction on how to… Read more »

Is your home in crisis? Do your children never do what they are told? Do you find yourself completely overwhelmed and hating to interact with your children? Do your children treat you with disrespect and cause contention at home? Are you out of control of your emotions as a parent too? If any of these descriptions sound like your house,... Read more »

“Thanks so much for all the wisdom and inspiration you share.  I have a son (age 11) who zapps so much emotional energy from me.  Over the last several months, I’ve really been trying to see things as they are and trying to determine how to handle things.  He is a great kid.  He’s the first one to help a… Read more »

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