Relationships require selfless service to survive. Although there are multiple reasons people site for their relationship dysfunctions, from infidelity to arguments, relationship problems usually all have two things in common: dishonesty and selfishness. According to The Institute For Family Studies, the leading causes of divorce are: infidelity, incompatibility, drinking or drug use, growing apart, a lack of commitment, and too much arguing. In my own studies of families who are working to overcome dysfunctional family relationships and fractured family bonds through Teaching Self-Government parenting services, I’ve noticed that the main causes of broken or damaged family bonds can be grouped into a handful of reasons. These reasons include: lack of communication, laziness, not valuing family, arguing and fights, lies and manipulations, excuses for bad behavior, disrespect for parental authority and position of the child, losing common values, and only being concerned with one’s own feelings and wants. Every reason listed …
Posted by Monica Pond on December 28, 2020
This call covers: Twin 6-year-old boys who struggle with lying, cheating, and stealing. New to the program and has a 10-year-old son who rages and gets angry. Aged 2 son slaps, pinches, and rips. He’s a little bully. Adopted daughter won’t open up about anything and phone is a constanct companion. Entitlement confusion.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 7, 2016
This Call Covers: Kids Faking illnesses Correcting children on the Autism spectrum Helping children feel comfortable playing
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 3, 2018
This Call Covers: Attention Seeking in adult children Helping ADHD kids be calm Correcting children who make rude comments TSG and multiple mental disorders in children
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 6, 2018
This call covers: Things not being in order and the tone not being right. Feeling overwhelmed and in chaos. Friend lets daughter run around naked and thinks it’s appropriate. Social modesty and modesty of the heart. And, about JK Rowling and channeling. Son won’t give mother time of day. It’s like she’s not even there. How to fix that relationship. What classics canchildren read beside JK Rowling books?
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 31, 2016
This Call Covers:Unifying a family in a new marriageHelping young children who lieTeaching self-government to teenagers
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 23, 2019
Whole Call: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/08August/TSG_SC_8-19-20_WholeEdited.mp3 Question: I have a 17-year-old who has many issues that we are working on. My husband is incarcerated and I was in “survival mode” for a long time after his arrest. The kids had more screen time than I would have liked. Now I’ve worked hard with the younger kids to get back into a routine and with good structure/boundaries. I’ve scaled back my teen boys to 1 hour of screentime in the evenings after schoolwork is done. Like I said, my 17yo has many issues, including horrible, blatant disrespect. But the thing that’s driving me crazy right now is his inability to accept “no” for a video game. There’s a game he wants to play during computer time that I’ve given a firm “no” to – and I will not budge. So he mentions and whines about this game probably 50x a day. I’m not sure …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 19, 2020
This call covers: Changes for this school year Dishonesty and disrespect from our 14-year-old. What can I do to build my relationships with my children, especially my 15-year-old? Experiences, capacity, and skills. Also, balancing homeschool with 4 children under 6.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 17, 2016
This call covers: Getting young children to be quiet and reverent during church Dealing with lying problems from all of your children at once How to tell when anger is from bipolar, Lymes, or just an upset 12-year-old
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 10, 2016
Whole Call: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/07July/TSG_SC_7-8-20_WholeEdited.mp3 Question: Hello Nicholeen, My question is about dinner conversation. Our conversations used to revolve around our youngest acting out at dinner, ie crying, arguing, not eating, We recently implemented the 4 skills, and the Rule of Three with consequences. We also have a family vision and a family standard. Within less than a week, she was no longer acting out at dinner. Now there is very little conversation during meal times. We are eating breakfast and dinner all together every day. We have five children from 11-20 that are all at home. Do you have advice for how to spark and maintain conversation during meal times? Thank you! Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/07July/TSG_SC_7-8-20_Q1.mp3 Downs and the Ups game. Or, the what you’re grateful for that day game. Family conversation card game. Tell stories from your youth. Question: My 11 year old daughter is really bossy to her two …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on July 10, 2020
Helping children exposed to radical ideas on the internet Helping young children with depression Children fighting at bedtime Learning when to use different TSG skills Youth learning development and schedules at home Success Stories!
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on July 8, 2020
This call covers: Religious liberties Thumb sucking, biting nails, and wetting pants If it’s okay for a child to lie in certain circumstances Distraction with chores Rivalry between brothers Spitting when getting a no answer
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on July 15, 2016