(This event is not hosted by TSG. Nicholeen Peck will be a guest speaker.) September 24-25, 2021
Posted by Monica Pond on September 20, 2021
Many parents of teen- or pre-teen-aged youth are confused about whether teenage rebellion is an attitude problem or whether the child is displaying healthy independence. When attitude problems seem like rebellion, parents wonder if rebellion is natural or simply a modern social construct that societies now think is developmentally normal.Rebellion is as old as the story of man. Who can forget the violent Old Testament story of Cain rebelling against God and killing his own brother Abel? Surely, rolling eyes and ignoring parents isn’t as serious as killing a person. Yet, it is still rebellion against the proper order of things and the self-evident roles instituted for training the rising generations. Teaching cannot be effectively done by parents if rebellion leads a family to relationship dysfunction.Family GovernmentThe most basic government structure is the family government. In the family an order is supposed to exist that maintains the parents’ roles as …
Posted by Monica Pond on March 6, 2019
The political climate is pretty hot right now! Threats, scandals, verbal attacks, social unrest, corruption, and control tactics are all part of the current political scene. People are preparing for the worst no matter what the United States election turns out like. What preparations are the most effective? Preparing your own heart to be calm and focused on truth is the best way to prepare. Having self-government during times of political drama is what principled people do to stay calm. However, to have self-government a person must plan ahead. Lessons Learned From The Last Presidential Election Following the election four years ago, angry rioters took to the streets destroying property and making cities unsafe. Some US cities became hotbeds of hate; much like people are fearing might happen this election. When I was at the United Nations in March of 2017, people even protested me, blocked hallways, …
Posted by Monica Pond on November 2, 2020
This Thanksgiving Day is dedicated to feeling and expressing gratitude for our blessings. Are you grateful for who you are and the roles you have? Two Mothers Two mothers, Tina and Katy, are watching the ball game of their oldest sons. Their boys play for the same team. Each mother has other children busily running around on the sidelines as well. Each mother attempts to support her ball-playing son by watching all his plays on the field, while also trying to keep her other children from causing any problems for onlookers or officials. Tina’s 5-year-old daughter walks up to her 6-year-old son and says something. The son punches his sister. She whines to Mom to get her attention. Immediately, the son whines to Mom as well. Each are crying that the other did something mean to them. Tina ignores the situation and hopes it will go away so that she …
Posted by Monica Pond on November 20, 2018
Have you ever completely lost control of yourself and you weren’t exactly sure why? This can happen to anyone. This usually means that you’ve been triggered in some way. There’s so much talk about emotional triggers nowadays that triggers are turning into common excuses for poor behavior. Could it be that we might sometimes be interpreting bad triggers as good and good triggers as bad? Triggers can be used for good or bad. If you understand how your feelings impact your thoughts and actions you can train yourself to use those pesky negative triggers as triggers for good thoughts and behavior instead of bad. Even calmness can be positively triggered by what used to be a bad trigger, if the person has properly replaced the bad trigger with a good one. That’s what this article’s all about. Understanding Triggers Everyone has triggers, not just people with anxiety or trauma-filled pasts. …
Posted by Monica Pond on September 7, 2020
Family traditions instill personal and family identity and bind families together throughout their many phases of growth and change. After children and grandchildren are grown and gone off to live their adult lives, the traditions remain as reminders of the sweetness of home and family, what is most important in life, and who they really are. Each new holiday our memories are flooded with thoughts of family parlor games, traditional songs, fancy feasts with predictable menus, and the excitement of treasured family time and open conversations. The best loved family traditions become the stories shared with college roommates and new spouses. No sooner does a youth launch into adulthood than they start to recall the traditions of their childhood and attempt to recreate a few of those treasured memories to share with the new people in their lives.Trends and Traditions Occasionally people create new traditions. When a couple marries, they …
Posted by Monica Pond on December 2, 2019
We might think that teaching the Four Basic skills is mainly for the children. They’re the ones who need them the most, right? Well, maybe adults need them just as much as the children do.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on April 21, 2016
“…We taught the 4 basic skills and the kids had a lot of funrole-playing the way to respond to the different situations, they especially loved disagreeing appropriately! 🙂 Well, I hadn’t determined what our consequences were going to be yet so I told them we would just practice the 4 basic skills this week. I’ve learned from this that it is essential to have consequences established or there is no motivation to respond correctly…” Why is it so important to have established consequences?
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on June 26, 2008
A teenage girl talking back to her mother in an airport about her emotions said, “We have to let our emotions out. I’m being true to myself. I won’t stuff my emotions just because you don’t want to hear them!” The mother, who had told her daughter that she couldn’t use her phone anymore, was correcting her daughter for talking back and being rude when she was told to give the phone back. I immediately recognized the daughter’s familiar excuse for emotionally beating up another person that is so accepted nowadays. I wondered why it was still possible that these lies about emotions were still being taught to people after so much research on emotions and the brain has now proven this emotional vomit theory to be false. We can’t escape using emotions in almost everything we do but we can definitely choose which emotions are best to use in …
Posted by Monica Pond on February 22, 2021
https://vimeo.com/79349963 Just so you know, I gave her 10 more minutes. We don’t have it on camera, because the battery died.
Posted by Pennie Rumsey on May 10, 2013
When I did foster care, I had a hard time remembering the new vocabulary I was required to use to help these troubled youth, so I made some cue cards to help myself. When I first started teaching people the language of self-government and I saw them struggling to remember the new words, I remembered how much cue cards had helped me in the past. For a few years now, we have offered cue cards for people to purchase at conferences and have had some basic downloads on the site as part of the Implementation Course. After analyzing how the cards are used and what language was unclear or insufficient, we have made the Ultimate TSG Cue Cards! These durable, plastic cue cards walk you step-by-step through principles like: Prepping and Pre-Teaching The 4 Basic Skills Correcting Negative Behaviors Clear Rule of 3 Outline and Vocabulary
Posted by Richard on April 28, 2020
Includes: “Londyn LaRae Says Okay!” (Following Instructions) “Porter Earns A Quarter” (Accepting “No” Answers) “Big Win for Quin” (Accepting Consequences) “Paije Takes the Stage” (Disagreeing Appropriately)
Posted by Richard on April 28, 2020