How do you help your children stand up for what's right without being "preachy" or "goody-goody"?
The most important skill you can teach your child is how to determine what is right and what is wrong and how... more
How do you find a good consequence for a thre-year-old who won't participate in cleaning a shared bedroom? This mother explained to me of her struggle with this issue. This is the advice I gave her. ... more
Hovering gives a message of not trusting. If he thinks that you don't trust him, he will think of himself as a dishonest person based upon your behaviors. Hovering is also a form of a power struggle. So,... more
I'm having trouble figuring out a good consequence beyond time out for my 3 yr old. He and his brother who just turned 6 share a room. I gave them an instruction to clean their room this morning, and he lef... more
Over the last year, my niece has gone through a change. The once happy, helpful girl changed into a whiny, depressed, girl that didn't look at life the same. One day I got left home with the all the childre... more
"My daughter takes 10 minutes to actually say 'OK' to an instruction. How do I speed things up?"
If it's taking 10 minutes for the daughter to say "Okay" to an instruction, then she is having a power struggl... more
When and how do you give consequences? For example, if you instruct your son to go clean his room (assuming you've prepped him for accepting a consequence) and he whines and says, "I don't want to do it... more
I instructed my daughter to sweep the floor. She said, “OK Mom, but I don’t know how.”
This surprised me. She had seen me sweep the floor so many times, that I forgot she might not even know ho... more
"Nicholeen, I was wondering how you teach these principles to the younger children. My children are (almost) 8, (almost) 6, 3.5, 20 months, and a 2 week old. (not that I expect to be doing this with the new... more
A blog reader wrote:
1 - We don't have a "rule" or certain consequence set up for every behavior in the book (nor do we want so many specific rules!) So, I'm wondering if "just-plain-not-doing-what-you-know-... more