I know you've written posts about chores before, but I can't seem to find them on your website. So I'll ask my questions, and maybe you can direct me to the proper posts if you've already answered them! Are... more
How do you help your children stand up for what's right without being "preachy" or "goody-goody"?
The most important skill you can teach your child is how to determine what is right and what is wrong and how... more
How do you find a good consequence for a thre-year-old who won't participate in cleaning a shared bedroom? This mother explained to me of her struggle with this issue. This is the advice I gave her. ... more
Hovering gives a message of not trusting. If he thinks that you don't trust him, he will think of himself as a dishonest person based upon your behaviors. Hovering is also a form of a power struggle. So,... more
I'm having trouble figuring out a good consequence beyond time out for my 3 yr old. He and his brother who just turned 6 share a room. I gave them an instruction to clean their room this morning, and he lef... more
Over the last year, my niece has gone through a change. The once happy, helpful girl changed into a whiny, depressed, girl that didn't look at life the same. One day I got left home with the all the childre... more
"My daughter takes 10 minutes to actually say 'OK' to an instruction. How do I speed things up?"
If it's taking 10 minutes for the daughter to say "Okay" to an instruction, then she is having a power struggl... more
When and how do you give consequences? For example, if you instruct your son to go clean his room (assuming you've prepped him for accepting a consequence) and he whines and says, "I don't want to do it... more
I instructed my daughter to sweep the floor. She said, “OK Mom, but I don’t know how.”
This surprised me. She had seen me sweep the floor so many times, that I forgot she might not even know ho... more
"Nicholeen, I was wondering how you teach these principles to the younger children. My children are (almost) 8, (almost) 6, 3.5, 20 months, and a 2 week old. (not that I expect to be doing this with the new... more