Support Call 4-5-19
This Call Covers:
Using stories to teach the four basic skills
Teaching boundaries
Navigating difficult social circles
Helping a child with Reactve Attachment Disorder
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Following Instructions
Motivation problems
A woman once asked me how to motivate her 18-year-old daughter to follow instructions and work more.Her daughter found following instruction insulting, and rewards or punishments like SODAS or TV time weren’t effective. The mom didn’t know any consequences or rewards that would motivate her daughter.
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Support Call 3-21-19
This Call Covers:
Leaving children on their own
Talking about sex with children
Helping children with their chores.
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A Whole Selfish Family
A week ago, I was standing in the kitchen canning peaches, and my whole family atmosphere fell apart all around me in a matter of five minutes.
My son was asked by his father to help with something in the back yard. My son didn’t want to do it, so he decided to have an attitude problem about it. My husband was stressed, and chose to get upset, instead of teach to the situation correctly. (We all have our moments of weakness from time to time.)
My daughter was supposed to be cleaning her room, and was playing her piano instead. She had lost focus. (She is ten, this happens sometime
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The Children Want to Know Why…
I once received a note from a reader about her 14-year-old son who was quite the thinker. He always wanted to know “Why?” about everything, which is wonderful, but it was leading to problems respecting authority.
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How to Help Kids Enjoy Doing Work!
It’s all too common in many modern households to hear sighs, grumbling, complaining and whining from children when parents give reminders of daily work responsibilities, or when additional work assignments are given to children. But, before we think this is the way children have always felt about doing work or that everyone should feel work
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Support Call 10-12-18
This Call Covers:
- Figuring out correction differences between spouses
- Proper tolerances for bad behavior
- Teaching Self-government to toddlers
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Public Databases Destroying “Safe Places” For Children
I’ve been writing about the best practices in raising children since 2006. During this time, I’ve covered a variety of subjects, but never did I think I would end up writing about a topic like this. No matter where you live or how you choose to educate your children, this database scandal could likely affect
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Sometimes They Figure It Out Themselves
Several years ago, my family had a tradition of occasionally deciding we were on vacation for a week. That meant we took a break from our regular routine. We did it a few times a year to focus on getting all of the yard and garden work done. One day that we spent doing lots of yard work is particularly memorable, not because of what we accomplished in the garden, but because of what happened with my children.
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Love of Instructions and Reproof
Janae and Trisha both have a 12-year-old son who has a habit of being defiant. Each woman struggles with having the confidence to help her son change his behaviors during his outbursts. So why is Trisha’s son making so much more progress on staying calm and listening to her than Janae’s? Why is Trisha’s confidence
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He Won’t Do His Chores?
A few years ago, I received a letter from a woman regarding her nine-year-old son, Colin. Her problem was one that many other parents face. Colin regularly spent the entire day procrastinating his chores. On top of it all, he had a bad attitude. He was sent to bed early, which meant he didn’t do his chores and thought he got away with it. The house was messy because Colin didn’t wash the dishes, and the mom was at her wit’s end — how can the family work around a stubborn child who is constantly seeing how far he can push to get out of his responsibilities?
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What Children Think of Negative Consequences
I recently asked a group of 10-year-old children what kinds of negative consequences their families have. “At our house, we sweep the floor and clean,” said one boy. “Mom gets mad and goes into a bad mood,” said another boy. “Mom used to send us to time out, but we don’t do that anymore,” said
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Morning Routine Motivation
2 – What kind of opportunities do you give for kids to follow through before getting consequences?
Example: It’s each of the children’s responsibility to make their bed, tidy their bedroom and get dressed before breakfast at 7:30.I try to say encouraging things to get the kids to hurry along by letting them know how much time has passed and how much is left before breakfast — even advertising what’s coming for breakfast to motivate them.But when they don’t do it, or don’t do it on time, I suddenly wonder what I should do.Do they miss breakfast?
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Support Call 2-23-18
This Call Covers:
- Giving children allowances
- Dealing with young children’s behavior in a growing family
- How to help a power-struggling child
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Stopping Conflicts Before They Start
A friend of mine asked me what she could do for her teenage exchange student. This student was in the middle of a multiple, day-long teenage tantrum. The mother had told her exchange student that she couldn’t attend a sleepover because the family doesn’t do sleepovers. The teenage exchange student, in turn, became very emotional
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Support Call 1-5-18
This Call Covers:
- Learning Self-Government in a oppositional environment
- Discerning if someone is actually calm
- Dealing with an adolecent media addiction
- ADHD and routines
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Support Call 12-15-17
This Call Covers:
- What a TSG bedtime looks like
- When is it ok to micromanage?
- Helping children with potty training
- Using the modified rule of three
- Disciplining yourself during pregnancy
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Support Call 10-19-17
This Call Covers:
- Helping children feel comfortable confessing
- Babysitting and TSG
- Inconsistency in the Children’s books?
- TSG and emotions
- When is too early to start the rule of three?
- Dealing with sexual harassment and abuse
- Extra chores at bedtime
- Helping Toddlers understand no answers
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Support Call 10-13-17
This Call Covers:
- Picky eaters syndrome!
- Time Management for parents
- The proper times to use 24 hour loss of privliges
- Compulsive lying
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Support Call 9-22-17
This Call Covers:
- How to help children “bust” their boredom
- Dealing with perfectionism
- Making a mission Statement
- Helping children to stop fighting with each other
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