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Christmas Contention Resolved!

I've never liked the part in the Christmas song It’s Beginning To Look Like Christmas when it says “Mom and Dad can hardly wait for school to start again.” Every time I hear this it makes me sad.  Sad th... more

Support Call 12-4-15

This call covers:

  • A reluctance to make a family vision because husband is a different religion and doesn't share the same beliefs and ideas.
  • Son disagrees appropriately with every instruction he's given. What to do with that. 
  • Limit on son's TV time, but he didn't want to accept it and he started a power struggle with me. 
  • a 2 1/2 year-old son has to have everything his way or he throws a tantrum. He doesn't really understand TSG stuff yet. 
  • Age 5 daughter can't accept no answers or criticism. When she's corrected, her self-esteem drops and she deflates. She says she's not good enough and her ideas are not good enough. 

Support Call 9-18-15

This call covers:

  • My child, age 6, can't even look at me when I'm giving him an instruction. How can he follow an instruction if he can't even look at me?
  • My 5-year-old son is great at telling me what to do when he earns an extra chore, but when he actually earns one, he goes completely out of control. What do I do?
  • My husband doesn't like to participate in family meetings. Is it possible to have meetings without Dad? Can we still have family unity?
  • My children don't like to redo things when they do something wrong. How do I help them participate in redoing a situation?
  • How many times can you go into the Rule of Three? My son keeps getting distracted and I'll start it, then he'll calm down. But three minutes later, we'll be back in the same place all over again. How does this work exactly?

Support Call 7-31-15

This call covers:

  • Teaching homeschool while keeping the house clean. How do I keep it all going?
  • We're new to TSG and have 4 children. Our 14-year-old is struggling with following instructions and being calm. What do we do?
  • My aged 14 son has come back to live with me after being a whole year with his dad and in public school with no boundaries. He says he hates me, won't do anything I say, and does anything he can to show me how much he dislikes me. How do I help him?
  • What happens when you've gone through the Rule of Three and your child is still out of control. What do I do?

Support Call 7-17-15

This call covers:

  • Is "going to the realms of fantasy" the same as negative attention-seeking?
  • Children learning to follow instructions with or without the specific TSG language.
  • How to use TSG with an aged 16 daughter who knows no boundaries and who must go to court for her behaviors.
  • When given a "no" answer, how to recognize and correct manipulation.
  • My husband thinks I'm too quick to correct behaviors and he doesn't like the 24-hrs loss of privileges "punishment."
  • How to have family meetings with grown children.

Support Call 6-5-15

This call covers:

  • "McFarland USA" and character and strength.
  • I need ideas for what to do in the summer months when it's too hot to go outside to play (AZ).Also, my 11 year-old son is constantly reading and avoiding people and social situations, just like his dad. He has no friends and he reads things that aren't necessarily of use. What do I do?
  • I've found out that my 9 year-old son has been swearing at school, but when I ask him if he has, he denies it strongly. How do I help him see that this is wrong?
  • I'm trying to help my 5 year-old son understand natural and synthetic consequences and roles. 
  • I'm having a hard time finding the right medication for my 7 year-old ADHD daughter. What she's on now seems to be helping at school, but not at home. Suggestions?