In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the difference between emotional bondage and emotional freedom, what they both look like, what common behaviors are with each, how to recognize and analyze them, and why it’s so important to know the difference between the two.
Posted by Richard on April 27, 2020
In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss some of the problems parents have seen with the lack of responsibility their children have, what those issues could look like in your own home, and some of the solutions for parents to help their children (and themselves) assume and take on more responsibility. It’s part of the natural growing and learning process. https://tsg-podcasts.s3.amazonaws.com/2020/March/TSGPodcast07-TeachingKidsResponsibilityLikeAChamp-Mar23-2020.mp3
Posted by Paije Baumert on March 23, 2020
Is your home in crisis? Do your children never do what they are told? Do you find yourself completely overwhelmed and hating to interact with your children? Do your children treat you with disrespect and cause contention at home? Are you out of control of your emotions as a parent too? If any of these descriptions sound like your house, then you might be in crisis and you will definitely benefit from reading this book. It is written for you. This book is also written for people who don‘t want to ever have a home like I have described above and for parents who want to have an effectively communicating family right from the very beginning of parenthood.
Posted by Richard on April 28, 2020
Dear Fellow Parent, Without a doubt, the most difficult part of parenting in this day and age is deciding how to handle the digital and sexual world that is knocking on the doors of our homes. How do we help our children prepare for the real world? When temptations come, how do they learn how to self-govern themselves on devices? Is there a way to have self-government and a cell phone during childhood? How can parents navigate this socially and emotionally charged world of sex and technology while protecting the hearts of their children? Protecting the innocence of children and preparing them for digital self-government is possible! This one-day, online seminar is focused on understanding the little-understood elements of the tech/sexual world. This will help parents know how they can keep their children safe. Learn how to set up the proper home environment for protecting and freeing your family from digital and sexual addictions that are so prevalent today. …
Posted by Richard on April 28, 2020
Recently I was invited to be a guest speaker on the Joyful Living Podcast with Quinn Curtis. The presentation was completely new and really spontaneous! I think you will like it. Some of the topics covered are: Entitlement issues in children What joyful living looks like How to balance home life and work or other busy projects How the family vision impacts the family How to self-govern yourself as a parent And many other great topics…….. (spoiler alert! Nicholeen cried in this interview. Listen and see why)
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on January 26, 2016
Even though there seems to be more self-absorbed people around us than ever before, calling someone a narcissist may miss the mark. In fact, many people who seem to possess narcissistic behavior, might just be prideful. There is a difference. People all over the world share their relationship struggles and personal development goals with me in an effort to better learn self-government. These conversations have made quite an impression on me. As a result of these conversations, I’ve noticed that narcissistic disorders as well as prideful behavior in relationships are both increasingly damaging family bonds and healthy child development, as well as creating social drama and decreasing productivity in business. As a society, we need to understand these behaviors and know what we can do to stop the pride and narcissism trends. So, what’s the difference between pride and narcissism? Baseline behavior for normal people includes: Recognizing they’re wrong about …
Posted by Monica Pond on January 25, 2021
Chris W. shared this shocking story with me about his experience last week with his son at a California park. “My son and I were playing soccer at a park in the bay area of California. Multiple African American boys came up to my son and started punching him in the head for no reason. When I attempted to stop the beating of my son, an Asian woman yelled at me and called me names and referred to me as ‘privileged.’ I was so shocked. I couldn’t believe that this was happening to me and my son in the bay area where I grew up.” Who is teaching our children about relationships, discrimination, equality, and love now? And, what are the lessons? As society becomes more wild, we need to examine the teaching and media messages that are producing this kind of incivility, prejudice, and hostility. Although not …
Posted by Monica Pond on May 17, 2021
Think of the voices that surround our children. Voices leading children to love money, God, family, power, popularity, prestige, entitlement, activism, intellectual achievement, personal worth, truth, pleasure-seeking, time wasting, productivity, industry, judgment, despair, and more. It’s easy to see how some of these voices mislead and hurt a child’s potential. Yet, these voices oftentimes come from people who say, or even think, that they are helping children. No matter the voice, the child is influenced. But, two voices have a greater power to win the heart and loyalty of the children; the parents. It’s toward parents, these key players in the advancement of society and morality, that our devotion should lean. “German novelist Jean Paul observed, ‘The conscience of children is formed by the influences that surround them; their notions of good and evil are the result of the moral atmosphere they breathe.’ For new human beings the …
Posted by Monica Pond on March 7, 2021
Reaching a child’s heart is vital for awakening his conscience and morally training him to desire to make good choices, but structure also has a part to play in training the heart. This is a true story, and a new parenting lesson, of how to help a person understand the truths behind your teachings. Structure “Porter, I need you do go clean the main bathroom. Okay?” I said one afternoon to my 13-year-old son. Now that my baby is 13, we do chores a bit differently than we used to. In years past we had chore systems for our family. Sometimes we listed daily tasks for each child, and sometimes each child had a weekly stewardship. After years of that kind of work, they are now self-governed enough to just do what needs to be done when it needs to be done most of the time. Sometimes they see it …
Posted by Monica Pond on December 13, 2017
“That girl was so rude!” a girl about age 12 said to her mother as she skated off of the roller rink. Immediately her mother started toward the mother of the “rude” girl to tell her to control her daughter and to tell the daughter to apologize for her unkindness. This mother clearly loved and cared for her daughter and was her daughter’s social advocate. “But,” I wondered, “why is this mother not advocating for the social and emotional strength of her daughter?” It’s always hard when we see our children mistreated by other people. I vividly remember feeling a pang in my heart when my son was excluded from social situations because he was homeschooled, and when boys in the neighborhood tried to bully him because he was different. However, I thought differently than the other mother. I realized that these hard, often offensive moments in life would end …
Posted by Monica Pond on August 23, 2021
This Thanksgiving Day is dedicated to feeling and expressing gratitude for our blessings. Are you grateful for who you are and the roles you have? Two Mothers Two mothers, Tina and Katy, are watching the ball game of their oldest sons. Their boys play for the same team. Each mother has other children busily running around on the sidelines as well. Each mother attempts to support her ball-playing son by watching all his plays on the field, while also trying to keep her other children from causing any problems for onlookers or officials. Tina’s 5-year-old daughter walks up to her 6-year-old son and says something. The son punches his sister. She whines to Mom to get her attention. Immediately, the son whines to Mom as well. Each are crying that the other did something mean to them. Tina ignores the situation and hopes it will go away so that she …
Posted by Monica Pond on November 20, 2018
Is your teenaged child not getting everything done that they need to in the day? Are they slacking off on their duties and assignments? I had a mother present me with a similar situation, concerned about her 16-year-old son and his lack of productivity. She couldn’t quite determine whatwas going on and wanted some advice.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on May 2, 2017