Whole call: CC Notes 11-10-2021 https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/11Novemeber/11-10-21/tsg-sc-11-10-21WholeEdited.mp3 Question: 7 year old functioning more as 4-5 yo. FASD diagnosis, adopted as infant from foster care. How do we manage/give more consequences when he breaks down with any mundane task/chore and therefore we don’t have as much time to devote to giving more chores. Throws fits at times when given task he doesn’t want to do. With coping skills he’s learned, sometimes he can over come the fit, but at times resistant to work. Thank you. Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/11Novemeber/11-10-21/tsg-sc-11-10-21Q1.mp3 FASD can be difficult because FAS children often stop focusing and get higher levels of anxiety. They need steady pre-teaching. FASD children can and do progress with TSG skills and principles, but parents must be calm, patient, consistent, and have a pre-teaching mindset. I know it seems overwhelming at times, but remember that you can only do one interaction at a time. Don’t worry about …

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Posted by Nicholeen Peck on November 13, 2021

Whole Call: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/10October/TSG_SC_10-27-20_WholeEdited.mp3 Question: Hi Nicholeen, My daughter is 10 years old and an avid reader. She is constantly wanting new material to read. Can you recommend a resource other than the Good and the Beautiful that has previewed books we can choose from. My local library and church library are not that great and we need to purchase just about everything. There are so many books that could be suitable that have good themes about God but may have a few bad words like ‘idiot’ or ‘stupid’ or mild boyfriend and girlfriend relationships or issues about divorce or death of parents. What is your view on these types of books? I am totally not keen on these books but I feel a little pressure to allow her to read them. From her and sometimes from my good christian friends. How do I address this issue? How do I preview …

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Posted by Nicholeen Peck on October 30, 2020

This Call Covers:Helping small children deal with separation anxietyPassive-Agressive out of control childrenLearning to love children who won’t show love back

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on October 25, 2019

Whole Call: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2020/10October/TSG_SC_10-21-20_WholeEdited.mp3   Question: Thank you for the advice last week! My daughter is doing much better with allowing us to teach her. My question this week is in regards to having her go to sleep on her own. She is 8, and we have been putting her to bed by staying in the room with her and lying in her bed until she goes to sleep. We’ve done this since she was a baby. This was probably not the best decision, and, at this point, it is not teaching her any skills for getting to sleep on her own. I have hesitated in making a change because I am not sure where to start. She has a lot of anxiety at bedtime and tends to have racing negative thoughts that pop up when she slows down and tries to go to sleep. I feel like we need to …

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Posted by Nicholeen Peck on October 21, 2020

This call covers: Sometimes people ask my opinion about parenting. Most of the time they just want a “quick fix.” What can I tell them? “Work is the antidote for a sick character.” What if all you do is work? Then, isplaythe antidote? Son is 13 and in puberty, but he shows no empathy for others around him. How can that be fixed? 4-year-old daughter is picky about clothes and won’t wear anything she doesn’t like. This gets expensive and frustrating. What to do? I have a 16-month-old granddaughter who loves to get into things. She doesn’t like no answers. How can I help her accept no answers at such a young age?

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on January 28, 2016

Parents are meant to shepherd their children toward truth and safety, as well as in learning skills, in order to prepare them for the purposes of their lives. But not all shepherds are the same.Two sisters were given some sheep to care for, and a promise that the sheep would be of great value if tended properly.The younger sister wanted her sheep to bring her wealth and praise quickly, so she promptly put them out to pasture to fatten the sheep up. The tending was easy at first. She gave them a grassy place to eat and left them alone. Since the sheep were busy, she could do the things she wanted to do. She felt she was getting more done by keeping her sheep occupied with their grassy hill, while she spent time with friends, received spa treatments, and built her wool business. She created a website and established …

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Posted by Monica Pond on April 18, 2019

In 2012, a woman attending one of my Teaching Self-Government parenting trainings began to cry in the middle of my presentation about different styles of parenting. She timidly raised her hand and I called upon her to speak. Through sobs and tears she said, “My mom was that modern progressive, permissive type of parent you just talked about. She let me do whatever I wanted to do and never corrected me. She probably thought it was giving me freedom, but it ruined my life. I did so many bad things just to see if my mom loved me enough to stop me. She wouldn’t stop me…I still haven’t recovered from all the license she gave me. It’s taken years to try to build a decent life for myself.” No matter what difficulties families are facing or how different the children of each generation seem to be from previous generations, it’s …

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Posted by Monica Pond on November 30, 2020

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the secret to perfect parenting! Do you ever find yourself in a situation where you reacted in a way that you wish you hadn’t, but feel it’s too late to do anything about it? Or do you feel like it’s too much effort to go back and fix an interaction? Listen in for some great insight and teaching on this amazing gold nugget of parenting! https://tsg-podcasts.s3.amazonaws.com/2021/11+November/TSGPodcast87-TheSecretToPerfectingYourParenting-Nov24-2021.mp3

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on November 24, 2021

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss what to do with children who have begun experimenting or formed a habit with lying. Does your child like to “tell stories” to improve upon or try and change the truth? Do you have a hard time trusting your child? Listen in for specific skill sets to help your child conquer lying and truly desire better behavior. https://tsg-podcasts.s3.amazonaws.com/2021/09+September/TSGPodcast80-LyingStoriesAndHonestCommunication-Sep19-2021.mp3

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 20, 2021

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss how your family roots affect your own progression and share two tips to shape your family the way you want to. Do you struggle with your family direction because of things that happened in the past? Do you want to guide your family differently than your parents guided yours? Listen in for those two wonderful tips to help you break the mold and create your own! https://tsg-podcasts.s3.amazonaws.com/2021/09+September/TSGPodcast79-RearrangingYourRootsAndYourRelationships-Sep13-2021.mp3

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 14, 2021

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the process by which people learn social skills. Do you wonder where your children are learning their social skills from? Are you worried that they might not be influenced by the right sources? Listen in to learn what sources are most beneficial to give you child the social training they need to thrive! https://tsg-podcasts.s3.amazonaws.com/2021/08+August/TSGPodcast77-BeefingUpTheSocialTraining-Aug21-2021.mp3

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 24, 2021

In this podcast, Nicholeen and Paije discuss the topic of fairness and if it really plays a part in healthy, happy development. Is making everything fair important? Do you really know what “fair” means? Listen in for some great tips on how to achieve ultimate fairness in your family. https://tsg-podcasts.s3.amazonaws.com/2021/08+August/TSGPodcast75-DoesFairnessMatter-Aug11-2021.mp3

Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 11, 2021