Why do we cater to our stresses and forget to choose calmness? After all, calmness is the only state where we truly feel safe and empowered. Stress, anger, and frustration never lead to true empowerment or peace, only emotional bondage.In 1998, when I was the young mother of a small baby and a toddler,and before I went through a complete personal parenting relaunch, I made a decision that proved to me how much parenting help I really needed. As I recall, I was in the family room alone with my toddler son. Likely my infant daughter was in her room sleeping. If this was the case, which only makes sense because she wasn’t in my arms that minute, then I was likely slightly stressed about not waking her up from her nap. Toddlers don’t always care about how much noise they make. The part of the interaction with my son …
Posted by Monica Pond on March 4, 2020
“Porter, it’s your day to unload the dishwasher,” I said one night after dinner. “Okay,” he said, but then he started playing Legos instead of doing dishes. “Porter, you were told to do the dishes and now you’re playing Legos. You didn’t follow instructions,” I said. Porter immediately interrupted, “But I can’t. It’s too high to put them away.” At this point 7-year-old Porter needed to be corrected for interrupting, which is not disagreeing appropriately. He also needed to hear the rest of the correction for not following the instruction I gave him (to do the dishes). At our home, each of these corrections is followed by earning an extra chore. This helps in character development and in learning cause and effect. Of course, we also practice the situation again the right way using the communication skills we already know and use as a family — thus proactively preparing to …
Posted by Jeff Pizzino on February 19, 2016
This call covers: Sibling rivalry Point system and homework honesty issues
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on November 19, 2011
Some might think that optimistic people are fake or somehow disconnected from reality, but I know for a fact that positivity is one of our choices no matter what circumstances are before us. Russell Nelsontaught that our “joy has little to do with the circumstances of our lives, but everything to do with the focus of our lives.” (Joy and Spiritual Survival) But, can a person really choose happiness and live with joy every day? Surely, there are some days that are too hard to be happy. And, for the benefit of modern theories that seems to be promoting the inclusion of anger, hate, and sadness as healthy states of being, is it really healthy to live happy and positive all the time?Who hasn’t seen the teenage girl who rolls her eyes at her parents and complains about every hardship? Well, at age 14 I was that teenage girl. I …
Posted by Monica Pond on December 16, 2019
On a recent plane flight I happened to open the magazine provided for passengers by the airlinein the seat back pocket. In the magazine there was an article titled “Break Room” about these“Anger Rooms” that are starting to pop up around the country.These Anger Rooms are proof of our society’s entitlement mindset. The business is based onthe idea that a person should be allowed to be as aggressive as they want to when they feel anemotion coming on, and not have to follow God’s law of cause and effect.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on June 3, 2016
“Do you see those sweet sisters over there? They inspire me. They couldn’t be more different, but they also couldn’t be more full of love toward each other than they are,” a friend of mine pointed out to me one day about two ladies who were her good friends.She went on to explain, “One of them is an unmarried, non-religious, modern feminist who prides herself on being on the liberal side of every issue. Her sister, and best friend, is a married, very religious, ultra conservative, pro-life mother of six children. Yet, they never let their differences get in the way of their relationship. I just love it!”I looked at these two powerful women and couldn’t help but be inspired too. How did they do it? How did they conquer their differences in a world that only focuses on the differences in people? Most idle conversations revolve around the observations …
Posted by Monica Pond on November 18, 2019
I was standing at the kitchen sink washing dishes, when all of the sudden the happy children noises from the basement changed into cries and yells. I remember distinctly hearing a sad noise or yell from each of my four children. Now, doing the dishes seemed fun compared with sorting out what happened in the basement. I dried my hands and took a deep breath. I wanted to make sure I was calmso that the obviously stressful situation wouldn’t control my emotions. A clear head and calm soul can change hearts and teach minds.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 17, 2017