When was the last time you felt lonely? In order to thrive during these socially unusual times, and even times that aren’t unusual at all, it’s important to understand the difference between being alone and experiencing real loneliness, and what we can do to combat the loneliness epidemic that seems to be sweeping many countries. According to 2021 Harvard research findings, “61 percent of young people ages 18 to 25 reported feeling lonely.” Many of those interviewed for the study called their loneliness “serious loneliness” and mentioned experiencing loneliness many times a week. (Harvard Study: An Epidemic of Loneliness Is Spreading Across America, “Fee Stories,” Kerry McDonald, February 2021) Young adults aren’t the only ones experiencing extreme loneliness in recent years. Other age groups also reported an increase in loneliness, as well. (socialpronow.com/loneliness-statistics/) It truly does seem as if the loneliness epidemic needs more attention. Even though the COVID-19 situation …
Posted by Monica Pond on October 4, 2021
Why do we cater to our stresses and forget to choose calmness? After all, calmness is the only state where we truly feel safe and empowered. Stress, anger, and frustration never lead to true empowerment or peace, only emotional bondage.In 1998, when I was the young mother of a small baby and a toddler,and before I went through a complete personal parenting relaunch, I made a decision that proved to me how much parenting help I really needed. As I recall, I was in the family room alone with my toddler son. Likely my infant daughter was in her room sleeping. If this was the case, which only makes sense because she wasn’t in my arms that minute, then I was likely slightly stressed about not waking her up from her nap. Toddlers don’t always care about how much noise they make. The part of the interaction with my son …
Posted by Monica Pond on March 4, 2020
Even though the mistakes our children make are glaring us in the face, we also know that each of our children has certain attributes that make them wonderful, individual, and precious to us. Charitable parents focus more on those good, productive attributes than on the negative mistakes their children make daily.Each week I answer peoples’ parenting questions on my weekly support group call. The majority of the time the questions submitted about lying, disobedience, attitude problems, tantrums, etc. are prefaced with statements like these:“William is such a sweet boy. He always helps clean up without any complaining and loves his family so much, but he has a problem with…”“I really enjoy my little angel, Larren. She’s so kind to everyone, except her…”“Jared and Tyson are the best of friends. But they aren’t kind to…”These statements are charitable. The parents are considering the whole person when they’re analyzing the troubling childhood …
Posted by Monica Pond on December 19, 2018
Creating quality, loving family relationships requires discerning between what actions are really quality and what actions are nothing more than conformity to social norms. Creating these quality relationships doesn’t require elaborate planning, just time.Strong family relationships are built upon many components, such as good communication, honesty, trust, love, forgiveness, bonding, listening, shared vision, and shared experiences. Each of these relationship-strengthening components is better accomplished if a person chooses to invest in having quality time with their loved ones.But, what does quality time really mean? Quality time is a fairly new term that was invented in the 1970’s during a period in history when the pace of life really began to speed up and family members started spending more of their time outside of the home on a regular basis. What were once optional activities for families started to be seen as necessities. Additionally, increased standards of living and social expectations …
Posted by Monica Pond on February 11, 2020
For years I’ve heard adults complain about how disrespectful teenagers are with a tone that suggests the teenagers should fix their problem. I found myself wondering if it was really totally the teenagers’ problem, and if it was possible for teenagers to fix the culture of disrespect all alone. After many years of helping families fix disrespect problems I can say with certainty that teenagers are not going to be able to conquer their disrespect problem alone. Parent involvement is essential for solving this large scale disintegration of parent/child bonds. A mother from England contacted me with this plea, “Help! Today my 15-year-old daughter had a total outburst because I made porridge for her. She made a huge scene over the fact that she doesn’t like it, and she accused me of never listening to her and what she likes or doesn’t like. The hot cereal was what I had …
Posted by Monica Pond on June 30, 2017
So far, we have learned four of the five characteristics of “Becoming A Joyful Adult.” Now we get to learn about the fifth, being: Character. It is who we are. Character is one of my favorite words described in Webster’s 1828 Dictionary. It says character is: “…the peculiar qualities, impressed by nature or habit on a person, which distinguish him from others; these constitutereal character,and the qualities which he is supposed to possess, constitute hisestimated character,or reputation. Hence, we say, a character is not formed, when the person has not acquired stable and distinctive qualities.” Character is what recommends us to other people, whether good or bad. People we interact with want to see “what you’re really made of.” Our character is our true self, who we really are. After getting past appearances, the character is what we judge. Itis so very important in our lives. For example, two people …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 9, 2014
This is the fourth part of the “Becoming Joyful Adults” series. The topic of this part is: Relationships. There are many reasons why relationships are so important to be joyful. Also, in this clip, we learn of three things that will better your relationships. Relationships are what keep the family together and staying strong. They are vital for a life of joy. Click here for the last class Click here for the next class Download
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on July 31, 2014
This week’s Gem is the continuation of the “Becoming A Joyful Adult” series. Part three is about another amazing charactaristic: Purpose. We have to have purpose in order to have any amount of happiness. Have you ever found yourself at home with nothing to do? You start to feel grumpy. Purpose gives us something to work for and toward. It gives us a sense of fulfillment. Click here for the last class Click here for the next class Download
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on July 16, 2014
In this second part of Becoming Joyful Adults, we learn about the second characteristic that we need to be, indeed, a joyful adult and how to help our children be joyful as well.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on July 11, 2014
Learn about the first of 5 characteristics you need to raise and become joyful adults!
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on June 25, 2014
An online school teacher was recently giving me the highlights of his career. He proudly told me that his favorite part of his job was that he gets to teach children discernment. I could see how this would be exciting for him but was also instantly concerned. A series of “what if” questions came to mind. What if the teacher had a different moral compass than the child or the child’s parents? Couldn’t that confuse discernment? What if the teacher taught discernment solely through the lens of science and fact finding instead of incorporating the spiritual/inspiration element? What if the spiritual elements the teacher brought in weren’t in alignment with the family’s spiritual truths? What if the parents didn’t know the teacher was focusing on teaching their child discernment and so didn’t detect what the child was discerning? What if the child didn’t know that there are multiple ways for …
Posted by Monica Pond on September 7, 2021
“Yesterday my 8 year old was grumpy when asked to do something, so he earned a negative consequence. I asked him to choose a job from the job jar.I explained that the job would help him change his heart.He then got very cheerful and said he was sorry for being grumpy… and wanted to be allowed to not do the job because he had changed (after all, he reasoned, the attitude was the reason for the extra job).
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on January 26, 2018