Is your home in crisis? Do your children never do what they are told? Do you find yourself completely overwhelmed and hating to interact with your children? Do your children treat you with disrespect and cause contention at home? Are you out of control of your emotions as a parent too? If any of these descriptions sound like your house, then you might be in crisis and you will definitely benefit from reading this book. It is written for you. This book is also written for people who don‘t want to ever have a home like I have described above and for parents who want to have an effectively communicating family right from the very beginning of parenthood.
Posted by Richard on April 28, 2020
Sick, horrified, disgusted, and worried are just some of the words that describe how I felt when an innocent search through the student portal of the Utah Online Library database pulled up graphic porn in a resource that was supposed to be for children about daddies. The resource said that daddies were adult men who engage in sexual relationships with children of either sex. My stomach churned as I wondered, “How are people allowing the destruction of the destiny of real daddies and the abuse of children like this?” I refuse to use such an endearing term as “daddy” to describe pedophiles on websites that exploit children. Daddies have great destinies that impact us all. Destiny means, “State or condition appointed or predetermined; ultimate fate.” (Webster’s 1828 Dictionary) What is the destiny of a daddy? A daddy’s destiny is to provide for his family and protect them. That may sound …
Posted by Richard on June 15, 2020
Perfection in parenting is nearly impossible to measure. God, the Perfect Parent, sets the perfect example. But we will always fall short because our attitudes, desires and intentions are not always as perfect as His. However, one of the many lessons from our perfect Godly Parent that we can focus on perfecting is our exactness.In 1828, Webster defined exactness as “regularity” and “careful observance of method and conformity to truth…”Despite our flaws as parents, which we all have, we can stay focused on the method of instruction we’re providing for our children, the truth that must be present in our teaching method and lessons, and the consistency of our teaching. All of these are required to help the child experience a change of heart.So, if parents are feeling stressed out one afternoon when a child needs correction, then they can change their focus from the stress feelings to the method …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on September 4, 2019
Recently I was invited to be a guest speaker on the Joyful Living Podcast with Quinn Curtis. The presentation was completely new and really spontaneous! I think you will like it. Some of the topics covered are: Entitlement issues in children What joyful living looks like How to balance home life and work or other busy projects How the family vision impacts the family How to self-govern yourself as a parent And many other great topics…….. (spoiler alert! Nicholeen cried in this interview. Listen and see why)
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on January 26, 2016
One thing that fails first on low energy days is parenting consistency. Parents start not seeing or correcting mistakes because they are distracted by their low energy.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on April 11, 2014
One morning I woke up with this list of things to do that day on my mind.Ok, I didn’t plan on one of my children throwing up, but the rest was planned.Before I even got my swimsuit on to leave for the pool, I felt this tight feeling in my chest and my head started to ache.I tried taking some deep breaths to calm myself down, but itdidn’t seem to work. I kept going and thought my workout might relax me.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on June 15, 2018
Overcoming the Expectation Trap “What are expectations?” Are they good or bad? An expectaion is an ideal which we superimpose on reality. This class in about how expectations go wrong, and how they go right. https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2017/07July/TSG_SC_7-28-17_ExpectationTrapClass.mp3 Support Group: Finding Your Effective Voice Tone People always ask me how they can change their voice tone. Well, since I had to figure that out for myself years ago, while doing foster care, I thought it should share the three ways of speaking with you too. Listen to this short audio clip about choosing your voice tone and how to recognize when you are using a destructive instead of instructive voice tone. https://s3.amazonaws.com/EditedImplementationAudio/FindingYourEffectiveVoiceTone.mp3 The Power Of Calm http://s3.amazonaws.com/EditedImplementationAudio/Power_of_Calm_Jerry.mp3 Staying Positive https://conferencecall.s3.amazonaws.com/staying-positive.mp3
Posted by David Eggertsen on October 3, 2017
There is hardly a day that goes by that I don’t find myself laughing, belly-laugh type laughing, with my children. Just the other day Porter and I were driving down the road and I mixed my words up which was kind of comical. When this happened, Porter started laughing. Then I started laughing. We ended up laughing most of the way home from the store. Life is just like that. I like being silly and having fun even if it is awkward to watch. I’m serious. I dance around my kitchen like a chicken, a ballerina, and a crazy woman. We laugh. Next I often grab one of the children and start swinging them around the room with me too. Then is the perfect time to say at the top of my voice, “I love you!” I often say “home should be the safest place to make mistakes.” However, home …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on August 13, 2015
Think of the voices that surround our children. Voices leading children to love money, God, family, power, popularity, prestige, entitlement, activism, intellectual achievement, personal worth, truth, pleasure-seeking, time wasting, productivity, industry, judgment, despair, and more. It’s easy to see how some of these voices mislead and hurt a child’s potential. Yet, these voices oftentimes come from people who say, or even think, that they are helping children. No matter the voice, the child is influenced. But, two voices have a greater power to win the heart and loyalty of the children; the parents. It’s toward parents, these key players in the advancement of society and morality, that our devotion should lean. “German novelist Jean Paul observed, ‘The conscience of children is formed by the influences that surround them; their notions of good and evil are the result of the moral atmosphere they breathe.’ For new human beings the …
Posted by Monica Pond on March 7, 2021
I have a few poems that are my all time favorites. This is one of them. It reminds me that to have courage when I need it most I must already have it within me. I must nurture my courage each day as I step out of my comfort zone and do hard thing after hard thing.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on October 14, 2014
Shut down doesn’t have to feel like shut down! Due to current restrictions caused by COVID-19, many families aren’t traveling as much as they normally do this time of year. Even local activities in many areas are still difficult to enjoy because of closures. But, that doesn’t mean we should stop having fun as a family. Now more than ever, we need to deliberately define who we are as families, and fun times together give us the vivid memories we need for focus, family stability, and healthy family bonds. A father recently told me that he wanted to get his family motivated to strengthen family bonds and improve family communication. He wanted more happiness and unity. So, I told him the first thing he should do is help his children get a vision of who they are becoming as a family. He agreed that his children needed to see the …
Posted by Richard on July 6, 2020
My husband is a neat and tidy sort of a person. There was a time when our family was living out of laundry baskets instead of closets and drawers, because I just wasn’t able to stay on top of the laundry like I would have liked to.Spencer suggested the topic of having a set time for the laundry to be done and put away. I didn’t make any comments, because I didn’t want to get involved in his problem solving.Figuring out what someone wants is the first step for helping them have ownership of their thoughts and actions. Problem solving in relationships requires discerning what the person really wants in order to see what is needed to inspire change in the person. Step #1- Ask him
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on June 15, 2008