There are times when I do things I wouldn’t normally do just because I wouldn’t normally do it. It’s a kind of self-check to make sure that I’m still open-minded and hopeful, instead of resting in a bias. Allow me to give you some context into my life so that you can understand why it […]
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by Nicholeen Peck Self-government, a key principle of individual and societal freedom, is culturally rejected by some academics. This malicious movement, if adopted by society, will undermine our cultures, our families, our economies, and our personal empowerment. Luckily, the solution to cultural warfare has a simple yet powerful and effective solution; strengthen the people
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This call covers:
* Misbehavior While On The Phone
* Summer Schedule
* 24-Hour Loss of Privileges Takes the Whole Day
* Success Story! Age 4 and Disagreeing Appropriately
* No Answers VS. Disagreeing Appropriately
* Teaching Disagreeing Appropriately to Young Children
* Teenage Sibling Bossy When Babysitting
* Husband Not Calm
* Role Playing “No” Answers and Corrections
* Daughter Afraid of Mother When Her Bedroom is Messy
* Age 7 Finds Joy in Blatant Disobedience & Age 10 is Bossy When Playing With Younger Siblings
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by Nicholeen Peck In the book of John, in the Bible, when the woman was “taken in adultery” and cast at the feet of Jesus, why didn’t he stone her? It was the law. Why did he get down on her level to think and show love to her as he told her that
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This call covers:
* Some Wins and Gratitude
* Silly Boys In The Evenings
* OCD and TSG
* Potty Training Regression
* Desperate For Help
* Corrections
* Son Being Teachable
* Teen Locks Self In Room When Getting No Answer
* SODAS
* Biting And Other Hurtful Behavior
* Potty Training
* School in the Summer
* Using Bedroom to Get Calm
* Teaching Appearance and Manners
* College Transition with Anxiety
* Saying, “I love you”
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This call covers:
* Starting With Senior In High School
* Sisters Relationship and Marriage Balance
* Corrections
* Connection With Teen In Car
* Dishonesty
* Skill: Following Instructions
* Rule of 3 With Older Youth
* 3 Year Old Tantrums
* Self-Reporting
* Homeschool
* Toddlers
* Power Struggling with Corrections
* Withdrawing Privileges
* Narcissistic Teen Girl
* Family Canon
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This call covers:
Belief in God/Video games/ and hearing Satan’s voice
15 month old masturbating
Getting Ourselves Calm
14 Year Old Earn’t 24 Hour Loss of Privileges Not Going Well
Meeting A Defiant Teen With Calmness
Calmness
How To Use The 4 Kids Books
Using Chores to Earn Privileges
24 hr Loss of Privileges Before Family Event
Type of Children Being Raised
Dealing with A Child Who Leaves the House
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This call covers:
How to use the workbooks for mentor meetings
Accommodations for sensory needs for autism
11 Year Old Struggles to Calm ADHD
4 Year Old Bedtime Struggles
Siblings Not Sharing Toys and Not Accepting No Answers
Fussy Eaters
Fighting In the Car
Humor, Jokes, Teasing
Kids Out of Instructional Control
Negative Physical Reactions
Youth Unable to Make Decisions
Cheerleading
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This call covers:
Electronics Addiction
Solo Mum – And 15 Wants To Give Commands To Siblings
Practicing Calm Down
24 Hour Loss of Privilege and Major Maintenance
Does Co-Sleeping With Children Discourage Self-Government
2 And a Half Year Old Boy Does Not Accept a “No” Answer
Job/Phone/and Out of Control
Speaking Over Me During Pre-Teaching
Bedtime Battle
Implementing TSG with older children
Emotional Bondage Habit After Loss of Privileges
Dinner Time With Seven Year Old Son
“I Want Things To Be Fun and Funny!”
Navigating Values With a “Culture War” between parents
Young son is physically abusive and won’t take responsibility
Anger during role playing session
Navigating work time with young children
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by Nicholeen Peck “It’s harder for children nowadays with all of the technology and temptations and bad examples”, a mother said to me at a recent conference where I was speaking. We talked for a moment about the differences between her childhood and the childhood of her children. She was concerned. She felt lost and
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“My daughter is so ungrateful! All I do is serve her, but she doesn’t care about me or what I feel. And, she never helps out, even when I ask nicely,” an exasperated mother told me about her teenage daughter. In a later conversation, Emily, the daughter said to me, “I never get anything my
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Love runs deeper than many people realize, and the outcomes of love are significant. We all recognize when we don’t feel loved or when we have a hard time feeling love for someone who isn’t behaving lovingly. But, what we don’t often recognize is that love isn’t something that can be turned on and off
Choosing kindness strengthens relationships, increases resilience and promotes emotional non-fragility, helps us solve problems, and is a choice that leads to happiness. Many parents tell me that they hope for their child to develop kindness. Indeed, kindness is a characteristic that develops. It’s a word that describes actions that display love or respect for others.
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Nearly every day parents ask me how to help their “wayward young adult” or how to heal the heart of their “disconnected teen.” Children displaying unnatural affection by disconnecting from loving parents is an epidemic in our modern society. Normal human development involves increasingly seeking for autonomy as a person launches into adulthood. However, turning
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Families are concerned about their children who are struggling with stress and anxiety. Why are stress and anxiety so prevalent nowadays, and what can families do to help in loving ways? Understanding Stress and Anxiety Stress and anxiety are real feelings that many children suffer with daily. According to Georgetown University Health Policy Institute Center
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When people don’t speak the same language, it’s hard to understand each other. Likewise, when parents and children don’t speak the same language, then they can become disconnected because of lack of understanding. Understanding creates a feeling of respect and bonding in relationships and is a vital component to creating family unity and solving family
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Some people seem to be naturally patient, while others seem to struggle with increasing patience because of their strong/hard natures or how they were nurtured. However, when patience is more understood, we all might find that we’re taking more steps toward patience than we think we are. And, if we keep taking those steps, then
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“I think I ruined my child,” a mother told me in desperation as she explained some of the behavior problems and disconnection problems her teenage son was having. She was being honest with herself about mistakes that she might have made in her son’s upbringing. My heart ached for her. She might have unknowingly done
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Mom has a bad knee, but that doesn’t stop us from making multi-generational memories to last a lifetime. Months ago, when I asked Mom to accompany me on a trip to Alaska, she said, “Sure, I’ll come if you really want me to go with you. I don’t move very fast anymore because of my
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