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Support Call 4-08-16

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This call covers:

  • The sweetness of a long marriage and my husband.
  • 12-year-old son has been fantasizing about girls and kissing and more. He tells his parents, but they’re not sure what to do exactly.
  • Age nine daughter has recently been homeschooled. She is defiant and manipulative. She causes lots of contention. What to do.
  • Grandchildren are really picky eaters. How to help them broaden their horizon.
  • Teenaged son is very proud and power struggles all the time. Will hit and bully. How to help him.

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Support Call 2-26-16

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This call covers:

  • Helping youth ages 12-16 keep their boundaries when in a group together and being kind to one another.
  • Dealing with young daughters that go from best friends to worst enemies.
  • Both parents work full time and cherish every moment with their children. Wonderingif homeschooling would be a good choice.
  • Getting age 18 daughter to stop procrastinating and being late to and with things.
  • Started a Commonwealth school, but has allowed it to take over the rest of life and looking for a way to fulfill responsibilities at the Commonwealth and at home.
  • Just attended Parenting Mastery Retreat and realising that our tolerances are too high. Also, having a hard time keeping track of every consequence earned. Thoughts?

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Support Call 2-12-16

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This call covers:

  • How to correct someone else’s child when in a group.
  • Comparing points of certain psychology to TSG: what’s right and what’s a little off.
  • Helping my son become more attentive and less distracted.
  • Catching my 15-year-old daughter with junk food in her room and stealing money to buy junk food. It’s all she’ll eat.

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Nicholeen Talks About How She Lives Joyfully And MUCH More!

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Recently I was invited to be a guest speaker on the Joyful Living Podcast with Quinn Curtis. The presentation was completely new and really spontaneous! I think you will like it. Some of the topics covered are: Entitlement issues in children What joyful living looks like How to balance home life and work or other

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Support Call 10-31-15

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This call covers:

  • World Congress of Families update and November Conference call info
  • We just found out that my teenage son is cutting, depressed, and possibly suicidal. We try to talk to him, but he plugs his ears and hums. How do we handle this?
  • My 6-year-old son has developed a new habit of negativity and being down on himself. I thought it was manipulation, but now I’m not so sure. Thoughts?
  • Our 15-year-old son’s room isalwaysmessy. We’ve tried to get him to clean it, but he just won’t and it’s the source of a lot of our battles. Suggestions?

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Support Call 5-22-15

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This call covers:

  • My age 17 daughter is having too much online social time and isn’t spending time with the family when she is home. How can I help her?
  • When my son was younger, he threw something at me that required me to go to the hospital. Sometimes, when his siblings are mad at him, they’ll bring up the incident and tell him “what a bad person” he is. How do I help him through this?
  • My age 14 son has struggled with an almost daily masturbation addiction. We’ve gone to the bishop and made goals, but he keeps falling back into old habits. What do we do to help him overcome this issue?

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Stressed Out To Chilled Out ~ My True Story

7 Comments / All, TSG Principles, Using TSG Skills /

I am not a stress out type person. My part ‘yellow’ personality usually keeps me rather laid back and happy no matter what troubles come my way. This has been a blessing many times in my life. But, I can feel stress, and sometimes I do. Here is my story of how I conquered the worse case of stress I have had.

Stress And Anxiety Symptoms

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Conference Call 4-15-11

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Nicholeen shares some stories about the importance of having a vision for you and your children. She is often contacted by individuals who have see in the BBC show. She tells about a girl who is lost and not sure what to do with her life and is considering apprenticing as a piercing person.

  • What if your child (or teenager) doesn’t care about the family vision or says it is stupid? That’s what seems to be happening with one of our kids.Nicholeen shares 5 ideas about vision.
  • I have a question about the content of vision. Would it be bad to make our family being in the rodeo as part of our vision?Or do I just change the vision if my children’s interests change.
  • 7 year old not calm after rule of 3 and needs to be taken out of the room. I can’t take him due to back it sends me into panic mode. He doesn’t like to be taken there. But he is attention seeking with the tantrum. 5 second rule. Power struggle mode. Soft hold. Exception to rule. Be intuitive. Special moment, counseling session. I noticed good. I noticed every so often you arent happy. I decided in order to help you be happy to do a soft hold. You are in bondage to your emotions and I am going to free you.
  • Help! I need advice as soon as possible. We just found out that our 17 year old has been drinking he was twice the legal limit and has been smoking 4 cigerettes per day. He needs to go to detox and a smoking cessation program. What do we do?
  • My 17 year old daughter makes mountains out of mole holes in regards to computer time and her social life. She will get really upset. She’s is a really good girl and the extreme is that she recently started cutting herself. Part of it is my fault since we really don’t have a structure in place for.

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Conference Call 4-8-11

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After her brother’s wedding Nicholeen shares a nugget of wisdom“Receiving your Spouse”. She discusses the importance of receiving and improving your relationship with your spouse, gives an assessment, and discusses the3 Types of Communication.

Questions:

  • My husband thinks I am too much of a softy and that kids need more aggressive measures than just talking about it. So do I go his way or make him come my way?
  • My children are 10, 12, and14 year olds but they act like 3 year olds. The feeling in the house is total contention there’s been fighting, squabbling, teasing, sibling rivalry, they are being destructive.My goal to stay calm. What do I do?
  • Talking helps me understand my thoughts.What do I do when there is something I need to talk concerning my spouse? I know you mentioned that we shouldn’t talk behind our spouses back?
  • We are trying to implement things in your book. I have older kids who don’t care for the changes. My husband says we need to get back to core and back to the relationships with them. How do you suggest we start implementing Self-Government?

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Tips For Using Time-out With Toddlers

9 Comments / All, Toddlers (0-4), Using TSG Skills /

“My 2yo has started crying a LOT the past few days. Over every little thing. Nothing is different physically or environmentally that I can tell. He already has his 2yo molars, too.. He’s just been crying about everything that he doesn’t like, with some pretty good tantrums thrown in the mix of the average crying. I tried holding him in timeout (he’s never stayed in time out on his own so far), but he screamed and threw a serious tantrum the whole time.. which wouldn’t be a problem for me except that I have to take care of the other kids, too! I tried holding him in our time-out spot until he was done with the tantrum so I could praise him for being happy, etc., but after 40 minutes of continuous screaming, my baby was also crying, needing to be fed, and the other young kids had destroyed the basement. At that point I just took him to his bed to finish his crying fit. So I’m thinking the holding in time out option might not work for us. Yesterday and today I’ve started just taking him to his room when he starts having a breaking down crying fit. What would you suggest? Do you think I should just take him to his room every time he cries? Or should I try

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Broom, dustpan, and child's feet

Why Not?

1 Comment / All, Using TSG Skills /

I instructed my daughter to sweep the floor. She said, “OK Mom, but I don’t know how.”

This surprised me. She had seen me sweep the floor so many times, that I forgot she might not even know how to accomplish the task.So, I told her exactly how to do it. It’s needs to be the same when telling your child what to say.

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