This Call Covers:Doing the rule of three with teenagersWhat to do when a child tries to order the parents aroundHelping inspire a teen to launch into adulthood when they don’t want toWhat to do first in the TSG UniversityHow to help children overcome anxiety with difficult assignmentsChanges in the new editions of Parenting a House United
Posted by Richard on May 20, 2020
Whole call: CC Notes 5-19-2021 https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/05may/tsg-sc-5-19-21whole+edited.mp3 Question: I am 16 and I want to know what I should be doing with my time and studies. I have no high school credits. I want to be college ready by 18. Where should I start? Also I am feeling deeply sad and more angry that my brother who is 12 and my sister who is 17 don’t care and are very rude. I feel like there is nothing I can do except pray for them and try to be a good example, but it doesn’t help me feel any better. Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/05may/tsg-sc-5-19Q1.mp3 Hi there! These are good questions. I’m glad you took the time to ask. Sometimes life can seem pretty overwhelming, especially when you are not too far away from launching from home. It sounds like you are looking ahead to your future and wanting to have good family relationships and …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on May 20, 2021
This call covers: Paije’s 18th birthday! Children are growing up! World Congress of Families in Republic of Georgia Trusting children to be good
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on May 20, 2016
This call covers: 3-year-old will not do any chores, even after earning them and calming down. Getting teens on board with the new TSG skills when they don’t want to. Feeling like a robot when doing the rule of three and how to make it not as mechanic. Helping children become “humble enough” to listen to parents during the rule of three. Inspiring change in adult children to help them stop power struggling.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on May 10, 2017
This call covers: Priorities in group problem solving Saving our daughter’s identities Mother interfereing with adult sister’s life. Should I correct her?
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on March 16, 2016
CC Notes 3-24-2021 https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/03March/tsg-sc-3-24-21Wholeedited.mp3 Question: So I just stumbled on my 6 year old playing with himself in the bath. How do I address this issue? What are the exact words I say to not make him feel uncomfortable but also discourage future issues. I already started to address the issue with him. I asked him directly if he was playing with himself in the bath. He said yes. I paused and I asked him if it felt good he said yes. I said ok and that I understand but we just don’t play with ourselves. I didn’t say anything else. He was still feeling comfortable at this point and I’m comfortable discussing it just don’t know what to say after that. What do you do for younger ages and older age children? Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/03March/tsg-sc-3-24-21Q1.mp3 “Our special private body parts have are for special things like going to the bathroom, …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on March 27, 2021
Whole call: CC Notes 3-17-2021 https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/03March/tsg-sc-3-17-21WHOLEedited.mp3 Question: If you have to do a soft hold, how do you transition out of it? I haven’t had to do it as much lately but last night our 5 year old was destructive and violent. After I started holding him, he also threatened to pee his pants. I had him go in the bathroom but he wouldn’t go while I was in the room and I wouldn’t leave while he was out of control. He hit me again and I held him in the dry shower in case he chose to pee. I told him as soon as he was still I would let go of him. He eventually got still and I let go of him. I followed him out of the bathroom and he hit me a few times softly as he yelled “Get away from me.” I told him I …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on March 20, 2021
This call covers: Answers to questions and announcements. Specifics on doing corrections in the car. Staying calm and facing power struggles from your children. The difference between extrinsic and intrinsic motivation. Feeling more understood when you disagree appropriately.
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on March 5, 2017
Whole call: CC Notes 2-10-2021 https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/02February/tsg-sc-2-9-21WHOLEedited.mp3 Question: I want peace. I want to do what is right. I have a weakness in discerning what to say and what not to say. To children and people in general. I don’t speak to people I don’t trust. I want to always be honest and try to be careful with peoples feeling about what I share. Sometimes I offend by being bold with what I am seeing and feeling. I want to be a person who doesn’t think I am better than others. When I am trying to bring truth to light I feel like I get lost on which details/truths to share. This happens a lot when my children ask me about their father. I try to give them basic answers or ask them to ask him. I know he will lie to them I have put off and some questions I …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on February 15, 2021
Whole call: CC Notes 6-23-2021 https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/06+June/tsg-sc-6-23-21wholeedited.mp3 Question: Hi Nicholeen, Background Info for you I don’t know how much you’ll remember and you don’t need to read all this out loud.. Sorry if this is long I’m trying to be concise. We wrote in on the May 19th call about our struggles with TSG and knowing we needed a major reset since our tolerances with our oldest 13yr old boy that was struggling for some time with his Daily understood instructions & that lead to losing his privileges. We have 6 children he’s the oldest 13 then 11, 8,6,3,1. We’ve been in this weird limbo phase of trying to make major changes and noticing what we’ve been doing wrong and not letting him get away with things. This last time before we wrote you his Dad, feeling major pressure and stress had a major angry blow up at him about these …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on June 25, 2021
Whole call: CC Notes 2-24-2021 https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/02February/tsg-sc-2-23-21Whole+edited.mp3 Question: Hi Nicholeen, Just wondering how I can stop my 10 year old daughter from leaving her things lying around the house. I know that sometimes she doesn’t actually do the task immediately after I tell her to put something away and then she forgets and It gets left out. I haven’t always followed through with giving her an extra chore because I feel as though she would be on the rule of three so quickly and she is not being malicious. And then it doesn’t seem to make sense to go through the whole script of ‘I know you want to tell me something…’ when the issue is tardiness. Or is the issue that she is just 10 and that leaving your stuff lying around the house is normal? We have a very small house, she doesn’t have her own room (she shares …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on February 27, 2021
Whole call: CC Notes 2-17-2021 https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/02February/tsg-sc-2-17-21WHOLEEDITED.mp3 Question: How can I teach my 4yr old to stay with me in the shops and stop touching things in the store? He is accepting these no boundaries, but how do I do TSG consequences while in the middle of the shop? Answer: https://s3.amazonaws.com/1-SupportCalls/2021/02February/tsg-sc-2-17-21Q1.mp3 That’s great that he’s accepting No answers. Do praising for positive consequences. He can hand you something, or you can make a list for when you get to the car. Also, pre-teach how you will handle out of control behavior ahead of time… Question: Looking for suggestions on what would be good “building blocks” of information. We have a 6 (almost 7 year old) who we want to be prepared for when he asks the inevitable question of “where do babies come from?” (Or any question along those lines). My husband and I already agree that in those moments we …
Posted by Nicholeen Peck on February 20, 2021