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“Crying Doesn’t Bug You, Right?”

Baby Crying

            A few days after I gave birth to my fourth child I found out that I didn’t have enough milk for him.  This was very stressful, which, I am sure, didn’t help the milk production. I supplemented him for a long time. 

After 3 months, my mid-wife told me that I should either do one or the other.  She said that I should have him just breast feed for a few days and see if my milk would catch up.

I said “OK” and stopped using the formula.  He cried and cried for a couple of days.  After the first day, my mid-wife called to see how he was doing with the change.  I told her that he just kept crying.  She said something that has come back to help me many times. 

“What child is this for you?”

“Number four.”  I said. 

“Oh, then crying doesn’t bug you, right?”

“No, crying doesn’t bug me.”  I said.

I heard myself say that.  I couldn’t actually believe that I had said that.  I had made a declaration that crying didn’t bother me.  I had been through tons of crying children in my life and it didn’t need to be a stressful thing for me any more.  I will forever be grateful to my mid-wife for this great question.  Now when life gets wild and people cry, one of the first things that comes to my mind are these wise words from my mid-wife, “Crying doesn’t bug you, right?”  This helps me calmly handle many situations. 

After a few days, I was producing enough milk to not have to use any supplement.