I will be in Cedar City this weekend giving a seminar.  I hope to see some of you there! 
Also, I still have lots of your questions.  I am getting to them as soon as I can.  I can usually only do one a day.  Thank you all for your patience. 

“My main question is when/how to give the consequences.  For example–if I instruct my son to go clean his room (assuming I’ve prepped him for accepting a consequence) and he whines and says, “I don’t want to do it right now.” Do I then say, “Just now, you didn’t follow the steps for following instructions so you have [...]

From a reader: ”So far, we’ve had a family meeting to talk about our vision as a family.  We planned our party for 20 years from now and the kids really caught onto it.  We taught the 4 basic skills and the kids had a lot of fun role-playing the way to respond to the different situations, [...]

“You mentioned you have touching rules for friends, family, and neighbors–do you mind sharing them?”
Not at all.  Hugs are OK for aunts, uncles, grandmas, grandpas, moms, dads, brothers and sisters.  Kisses on cheeks or forheads are also OK from this group.  Moms and Dads can kiss on lips, no one else.  Usually this one only [...]

“My 14 yo son is quite a thinker. He always wants to know “why?” about
everything. And isn’t that wonderful? …lately we’ve been having a little trouble with
respect for authority. He questions why, but the authority figure
doesn’t like that. This has happened with church teachers, piano
teachers, his dad, etc. The other day dh told him he [...]

This a comment on “We live in different times.”
“My husband works at a jail and just a few weeks ago a man we both know from school and church was brought in on sexual charges. His niece was supposedly the victim. Both of us were very surprised, as we wouldn’t have expected him of doing [...]

A reader wrote to me telling me about a young neighborhood child that introduced things of a sexual nature to her daughter.  This is not a fun subject.  I have been avoiding putting it on the site, but the more I think about it, this topic is probably one of the biggest things parents face.  [...]

About five years ago I met a couple who seemed to have happiness in marriage completely figured out.  They shared some of their secrets with me.  One of them has made a huge impact on our home.  It is called Odd and Even days.
 On the even days of the month everything bad that happen is [...]

“I just wanted to let you know how very much I enjoyed your classes at LDSEHE at Virginia Beach.  Attending your classes, I felt your method was something that could really benefit our family.””Today we sat down and talked about our 20 year vision. Then we talked about having really fun family home evenings and [...]

When do you quit being the referee and let the kids “fight it out”? 
There are sometimes when an argument is a natural consequence of a bad behavior.  Let them try.  Listen.  See how they do.  If someone could get hurt, you will have to step in.  After, tell them where they communicated well and [...]