Relationships
Happy Valentines Day From the Peck Family
Submitted by Nicholeen on Thu, 02/11/2010 - 00:01
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I make my children breakfast in bed every Valentine's day. It's a tradition that we all look forward to. It is my Valentine to
Happy Children Choose to be Happy
Submitted by Nicholeen on Tue, 02/02/2010 - 02:27
Nicholeen: we're doing our best to implement a system of family government following your plan. I have the 6 cd set and I've listened to them twice, and I'm reading the book as well...
...What do you do about a child who chooses to be out of instructional control forever? Just give him his 3 square meals a day, food, clothing, medical care, education, and otherwise let him be? I decided to further restrict his privileges by only letting him take one bath a day for 30 minutes maximum. (He likes to take about 6 to 8 baths a day usually.) I also will fill up his waking time with chores and SODAS, but if he refuses to do them as he is now, do I just wait him out? Keep asking him every 15 minutes if he's ready to accept consequences yet? What?
Grandparents Parenting ~ And Principles for Good Communication With Anyone or Any Group
Submitted by Nicholeen on Fri, 01/29/2010 - 15:37
"Grandparents need the lessons taught by Nicholeen. I have 43 grandchildren. As I took care of 5 of them just recently, using the “Family Council” as a way of solving problems (as taught by Nicholeen) was so helpful to me in working with the grandchildren. Thanks, Nicholeen!"
I loved this comment because it shows that the Teaching Self-Government communication principles can be used in all circumstances with any family members or friends. I also find these principles helpful in group settings like teaching church classes or advising scouts or clubs.
Principles to keep in mind in all settings:
Parenting Adult Children ~Narcissism Personality Disorder
Submitted by Nicholeen on Wed, 01/20/2010 - 21:25
Nicholeen,
Do you have any hope (techniques we can use) for Narcissist to change? I am dealing with a 50 year old son who we have diagnosed (finally) and he is wearing us out emotionally and financially.
Thank you so much,
When I think about this situation I can't help but ponder on the word "control."He wants control of his life and is going about it all wrong............you want to have more control, or influence, over him and he is not a child anymore, despite how he is acting, so you can't have it by taking it. There is a principle I believe in..............No one is able to really control anyone but herself.
However, this doesn't mean that you can't still have influence on your son. It just means that it is much more
Parenting Toddlers and Parenting Teenagers ~Family Government in Action
Submitted by Nicholeen on Wed, 01/13/2010 - 19:56
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Parenting Toddlers ~ Small Successes
Nicholeen,
I've been working with my son Jack for the last six months to appropriately accept correction. He's 21 months old. He'll do something inappropriate, I'll tell him the right thing to do and then say, "You say, 'OK, mom.'" I've been wondering, over the course of the months, if my efforts were in vain. Was he too young? Would he ever get it?
Teaching Self-Government in Marriage
Submitted by Nicholeen on Fri, 11/20/2009 - 21:35
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I was introduced to your program at a conference last year & fell in love with it. It's for adults as well as kids! Would you be able to offer me some advise on how a husband might use this to help his wife? My son has been married for 3 years to a lovely girl. In these last 3 years he as discovered that she has very little ability to motivate herself to do much of anything.
Getting Each Other in Trouble
Submitted by Nicholeen on Sun, 11/01/2009 - 23:59
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We have a problem with people getting into things in the house without asking. For example chocolate chips, cookies in the freezer and so on. We also have a problem with dishonesty.
The consequence for these (decided by the family) Dishonesty: 30 min.
Don't Overreact
Submitted by Nicholeen on Mon, 10/05/2009 - 21:13
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While making bread one day I heard confusion coming from downstairs. After asking the children what was happening I found out that one of our darling little friends, who was over playing, broke a toy and was really worried about getting into trouble. Apparently, the little five year old girl was playing with a toy when it dropped and broke. The other children assured her that it would be alright, but she was still worried.
Our sweet friend became so anxious that she hid herself in the bathroom for a while, and when she was found there came out and found another more private pl
Fathers figuring things out
Submitted by Nicholeen on Mon, 09/28/2009 - 07:54
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Recently I have had multiple people email with questions about their husbands. It seems that some fathers are reluctant to make changes in their family culture and systems even when the rest of the family is already using the teaching-self-government system. Even though I am speaking from a woman's perspective today to women primarily, I have also had fathers email about their wives not wanting to change, so the topic is valid for both mothers and fathers.
Why is it that one parent can be ready for change and another isn't? The answer to this question is probably individual in many
Teaching How to Stop Teasing
Submitted by Nicholeen on Mon, 09/21/2009 - 23:11
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“Waaaaahaaaaa!” screamed Porter, my five year old, from the other side of the family room. I looked over there just is time to see Paije, his much older sister, trying to pry one of her shoes from her little brother’s hands while keeping a close eye on the other shoe. Before I could even get a word in, Paije had grabbed the first shoe away from her younger brother and no
