…We just started this approach to parenting a few weeks ago, and while the first couple of weeks went well because the kids all loved the praise and even the novelty of picking jobs out of a jar, we’ve hit this bump where most are dawdling, and adding another chore that just doesn’t get done [...]

Hey, I have read your book and have been trying to implement the system, however I have a few questions.  My oldest son is 11, he has trouble controlling his emotions and talking back.  Here is an example of a typical situation; I ask him to do something he makes a face and might say [...]

Nicholeen: we’re doing our best to implement a system of family government following your plan.  I have the 6 cd set and I’ve listened to them twice, and I’m reading the book as well…
…What do you do about a child who chooses to be out of instructional control forever?  Just give him his 3 square [...]

“Grandparents need the lessons taught by Nicholeen. I have 43 grandchildren. As I took care of 5 of them just recently, using the “Family Council” as a way of solving problems (as taught by Nicholeen) was so helpful to me in working with the grandchildren. Thanks, Nicholeen!”
I loved this comment because it shows that the [...]

This is a copy of an email from Amiee Kieffer, author of http://momzoo.blogspot.com/ 
I thought it would be helpful to many others.

Nicholeen

Your parenting methods have really changed things around here.  I could go on and on about it! 

     I am still at a loss on how to do this all with my 2 year old.  He does well [...]

Nicholeen, 

Do you have any hope (techniques we can use)  for Narcissist to change?   I am dealing with a 50 year old son who we have diagnosed (finally)  and he is wearing us out emotionally and financially.

Thank you so much, 

      When I think about this situation I can’t help but ponder on the word “control.”He wants control [...]

Q:        “My Older children like to use the “disagreeing Appropriately” in what I consider to be inappropriate ways. For instance if I give an instruction that they simply don’t feel like doing, they disagree appropriately. I find that I want to say “no, you can’t disagree appropriately” because, I don’t feel it is appropriate to [...]

“My 2yo has started crying a LOT the past few days.  Over every little thing.   Nothing is different physically or environmentally that I can tell.  He already has his 2yo molars, too..   He’s just been crying about everything that he doesn’t like, with some pretty good tantrums thrown in the mix of the average crying.  [...]

The first page of  Parenting A House United says:
“Is your home in crisis?  Do your children never do what they are told?  Do you find yourself completely overwhelmed and hating to interact with your children?  Do your children treat you with disrespect and cause contention at home?  Are you out of control of your emotions [...]

My problem is that I never can think of appropriate consequences when my kids misbehave. Do you have any suggestions? I have five children ages 9-18. Thanks, Amy
Consequences can be difficult to think up, but the trick is to only do it one time.  A parent who has to reinvent the consequence every time a [...]