Nicholeen, 

Do you have any hope (techniques we can use)  for Narcissist to change?   I am dealing with a 50 year old son who we have diagnosed (finally)  and he is wearing us out emotionally and financially.

Thank you so much, 

      When I think about this situation I can’t help but ponder on the word “control.”He wants control [...]

“I was wondering….what do you do about name calling, or when children say bad words? My children say crap, stupid, dumb, etc… No matter how many times I tell them to stop, they don’t. So would you have them do a chore everytime they named called, or said a bad word? or Would you do [...]

        Another way I change my children’s hearts is to see what changes I have to make in myself.  If a relationship is suffering, it is usually a two person problem.  So, if I feel disconnected from my child, I take a good hard look at what I can do to change myself, motivate myself, [...]

Hi, I am a tired mom who is really trying very hard to have all the time and the spirit in our home. I have 2 kids. My lovely daughter, is freshly 4 years old and my sweet son, is 20 months old. Ours days are packed with action. In our family meeting we discuss [...]

I was asked how I handle lying.  This is a very common problem with children who are trying to gain control of their lives and other people. 
In the past I have written many posts on lying.  Two posts which may especially be helpful are “Communicating Honestly“  And “Honesty“.  If you type these words into the light [...]

I know you’ve written posts about chores before, but I can’t seem to find them on your website.  So I’ll ask my questions, and maybe you can direct me to the proper posts if you’ve already answered them! 
Are the everyday chores that kids have a “standing instruction?”  In other words, if they don’t do their [...]

“My almost 3 yo fights and kicks and cries when I take him to time-out (I have to carry him there), and then cries very loudly and even will scream at me when I’m telling him that he needs to stay there until he can become happy.  My husband thinks all of this is very [...]

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 ”I’m having trouble figuring out what behavior is 
“normal” for my 4- and 8-year-old boys, what chores I can expect them 
to be able to perform, and what kinds of rewards and consequences 
work for the different ages.  Is there a good book you can suggest?  
Or is that something I need to tailor for my own boys (i.e. [...]

“I have two boys ages 7 and 4.  My 7yo has developed a couple problems: stealing and lying.  I think that I/we have been making the problem worse in the way we have handled it.  We also have a HUGE problem with not minding.  He is a very stubborn child and will not help us [...]